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Lovechickens's picture

I can't get my husband to understand what it's like for me emotionally as a step mom. Most of the time I feel used. He expects me to pay for and to provide insurance for his kids, yet I have no say in things. He threw a fit when I said I didn't want sd to use the car to school. He defended her. Then I suggested, ok, if she wants to use the car, she can pay for insurance, again another fit, I'm not going to burden her.
Sd is still in HS, but she works, I figured since she is using "our" vehicle she can contribute, even a small amount. I'm in a no win situation no matter how I look at it. Both lack of emotional support, and financial support. Oh, don't get me wrong, my dh does provide, but he has no idea the resentment I feel towards him and his kids. It's like providing for the neighbor kids. Sacrificing for them, but there's no return. Kids don't call me mom, I'm called my dad's wife, or by my first name. It stinks. I hate bring a step mom, and I don't like bring married. Complete lack of emotional support.

idgets's picture

There's no shame in leaving if you don't like being married. You only live once and if he doesn't light you up then find somtimes who does. I know how you feel but I want to make my marriage last, he is my best friend.
Being a step patent is hard. They aren't yours and there's is no maternal bond.