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CantKeepDoingThis's picture

SheSloth has been insisting that there haven't been any boyfriends for about a month now. Even just the other night, when DH was helping her with her phone...this guy Robbie texted her, and the way she had the name in her phone was with little hearts by his name. DH asked if he was her boyfriend, and her response was, "No...and I don't have a boyfriend!" Hadn't looked at SheSloth's Instagram in a while, so I peeked at it that day. In her little description that she puts on there she has "Taken" with hearts on either side of the word. Next day, DH catches SheSloth on her computer Skyping this Robbie...same one from the phone. SheSloth insists again, she does not have a boyfriend.

Well, yesterday, SheSloth posts a picture to her Instagram that is another boob shot of her in a strapless top, and the caption "Thanks for making me feel like shit...way to ruin a good day...bitch"! I also notice that little notation on her Instagram description now says "Single" with a little broken heart next to it. No boyfriend my arse!!! And yes...got a screen shot! This also brings up ANOTHER lie! Just yesterday afternoon, when SheSloth mentioned that she knows all the bad words in ASL, DH asked how she knows that. She was like, "I just learned them, but I don't use them...just wanted to learn them so that I know when someone else is saying something bad about something. I don't use that kind of language!" Really? Then, what was that caption on your Instagram?!

It simply amazes me that DH doesn't keep up on this crap! He knows this stuff is out there, but he just ignores it. Part of me wants to tell him that his dear princess has been lying to him...the other part of me is thinking "What's the use! She always lies to him! He has had this kind of thing brought to his attention before and has done NOTHING! Am I supposed to think anything will change now?"

SheSloth has also stopped getting herself up. DH is blaming it on the new phone. *cough...BS* I'm sure as hell not going to start getting her out of bed again. This morning, like Friday, I kicked DH's butt out of bed and told him that SheSloth didn't get up on her own again, and he needs to go get her up. I left to the gym. I'm sure there was a fight this morning, because there is NO way that SheSloth was ready to leave the house in 30 minutes, which is all the time she had because she didn't get up at the time she was supposed to, and I'm not setting an earlier alarm for her.

It will be interesting to see how her schedule changes with the new "single" status this week

zerostepdrama's picture

Honestly I wouldn't waste my time stalking her IG or keeping track of her lies or doing screen shots of her social media to catch her in lies.

Sounds like your DH wants to believe what he wants to believe. Only makes you look like a "tattle tale" when you go to your DH with this information. I am in the same boat as you. I stopped trying to show my DH about his kids. He already knows. He just choses to ignore it.

I wouldnt waste any more of your time and energy into this honestly.

She's a liar... you know that... that is all that should matter... you protect yourself with that information.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

"She's a liar... you know that... that is all that should matter... you protect yourself with that information."

Yeah, I'm thinking I won't say a word to DH. But ^^THIS^^ is exactly why I need to keep a check on that social media! I'm pretty sure her lies are going to end her up preggers or something. I seriously do not know if my marriage would survive SD15 getting pregnant! I know I would have to insist that SheSloth go back to BM's, and that may start WWIII in this house! Same if she gets arrested for pot or something. I keep getting that she needs to be in a nurturing environment, and she will not get that at BM's (this claims DH), but it becomes more and more obvious that DH's definition of nurturing is "lay down and be a doormat"!

zerostepdrama's picture

You monitoring her social media isn't going to stop her from getting pregnant if your DH doesnt do anything about her behavior..... DH needs to step up and see her for who she is.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Yes, but at least it helps me get a general idea of what is going on. I have a gut feeling that if something like pregnancy were to happen, clues would show on the social media first. Wink

Jsmom's picture

I have the same issue. BM and DH do not follow SD18 Twitter or instagram feeds. They have washed their hands of her. I monitor it. I will not stop. I do not mention much of it to DH. Won't do any good. She is an alcoholic and drug addict and a slut. But, as long as I know what she is up to, when she implodes, I know enough to not allow it back into my life. I will not be taken in again by a liar.

onthefence2's picture

I have experienced that many single dads behave this way. That is why kids need two parents who are married. At least one might have some common sense and kick the other's ass when they get lazy. I know two dads who don't bother checking social media on their kids and they need to be. One, I did tell was going to be a grandpa when his son was 14 and he got pissed. I don't care! His son is now on drugs, skipping school, etc. and he refers to his behavior as "normal teenage issues." The other just doesn't want to know because he doesn't want to deal with it. Hell, I homeschool my kids and still watch my son's instagram account! So many stupid parents out there. I don't get it. Naive or stupid, either one, and kids are screwing themselves up because nobody's there to beat them senseless. SheSloth will never stop lying if he doesn't bust her EVERY single time. And at this point it might be too late anyway.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Was talking to DH a bit ago. I mentioned that he needed to help SheSloth set her alarms for the morning. He said he talked to her about it this morning, and SheSloth claims she did set an alarm. She said she woke up, but didn't feel like getting up, so she went back to sleep! Really? So just go back to sleep and guess someone will wake you up for school! Not me! Seems this is going to be a very, very fun battle for DH!

Rags's picture

The kiss of death in the Rags clan when I was a kid was lying. If we lied the consequences were hell. Spankings, long term grounding, exhaustive physical labor (my dad's favorite was digging the crawl space under our house into a basement depth space. At last count I bet I had removed about 10 Cubic yards of dirt from under the house mostly while digging on my hands and knees. He usually paid me $10/yard but if I lied there was no pay.

I inherited my parents zero tolerance for lying. My Skid learned those lessons as well from his mom and I as I did from my parents. The truth might have negative consequences based on what the associated behavior may have been but the act of lying brought far more unpleasant consequences than any behavior that was associated with the lie.

Calypso1977's picture

my SD lied for nearly 2 years (as did her bitch mother!) about her boyfriend. we only found out when i was able to locate her instagram and twitter.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Exactly, Calypso! And I'm pretty sure if SheSloth were to get preggers, there would be hints on her social media way before DH would even get a clue...much more than a week or so. With her eating issues, it could be a while before she actually would start "showing" beyond ability to hide it in some way. However, I could guarantee that there would be hints on her Instagram captions and such, as she is not one to be super smart about what she posts there. Wink

Same thing when it comes to drugs. I have good reason to believe that she is into pot again. Why? Well, the incident a few weeks ago of that other girl getting busted and claiming it was SheSloth's AND the people that she is linked to in her social media! There are a handful of people that like and comment on just about every one of SheSloth's posts, and if you click on their profiles, you will see things such as them proclaiming themselves to be stoners, pictures of pot paraphernalia (bongs, papers, etc.), etc. Sorry, but girl has a history!

And then there is the issue of boyfriends...she's been sitting here telling DH that she has no more interest in having a boyfriend, going to concentrate on school and guard...yet...her social media says otherwise! Posts about going here or there to see "cute boys" (usually accompanied by a "boob selfie"), a status of sorts flip flopping between "taken" and "single". Yet, there is DH, blindly believing that his dear princess doesn't have a boyfriend. Of course, I do have to wonder about this emo girl that keeps hanging out at our house. She is here like every other night...I hardly see her. This is the same girl I posted about a couple of weeks ago that I got home and she didn't leave when DH told SheSloth it was time for her friend to go. The girl has this sticker on the back of her car "So gay I can't drive straight". Maybe SheSloth has swung the other way? Naw...unlikely as boy crazy as she is!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

LOL...I know the feeling! If anything...like a slap in the face to the bios..."Hello! Are you going to wake up now? Haven't you been warned that this would happen with your 'free range' parenting?" BD23 tells me all the time that she is scared that SheSloth will end up pregnant before she finishes high school. She says her attitude reminds her of the girls who were very active when she was in school.

Calypso1977's picture

honestly? pregnancy is a big part of why i wont marry my fiance until my SD gets thru to 18 unscathed by a drug problem or a baby. if she gets pregnant and actually wants to keep it (which i know she will, as BM would be THRILLED), im gone. i refuse to be a grandmother (albeit a step grandmother) at my age.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

I refuse to be grandma to any spawn that may come from SheSloth! Girl's got a momma! She could move back in with BM and share the live-in babysitter! LOL I mean, SheSloth's little half-brother should be starting school soon!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Nope...no granny here! Was talking to BD23 yesterday...she is in NO hurry. Still trying to get herself set...was saying yesterday that she thinks she is finally in a position where she can start that animal behavior school, because she doesn't want to be cleaning hotel rooms and doing security guard work the rest of her life. Trainer, groomer...yeah...she wants to work with animals!

We also know that BS19 is in NO hurry! School and football...school and football. His girl is back here at home, and they are trying to make it work long distance. Can't get pregnant through Skype...LOL.

But that SheSloth! That girl is boy crazy!!!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Omg! Seriously, DH needs to wake up! While at BM's, SheSloth posts a selfie of her in a sports bra and low rise pj pants in this sexy pose on Instagram! DH sees it, and goes ballistic when it is just us! When he talks to SheSloth? "Honey, you really shouldn't be posting things like that." (in a super sweet, non-confrontational voice on the phone). He then tells SheSloth to go have fun with her little emo friend at the mall and don't be gone too long. Yup...unsupervised at the mall...wonder what new things will show up that she claims someone bought her. I seriously suspect shoplifting, because girl ends up with stuff (like the lacy thongs) that I know even BM isn't even dumb enough to buy her! I also really wonder about this emo friend of hers. Girl is always ending up at our house crying about something...like this house needs any more drama! I keep waiting for the girl to run away or something and have to deal with her parents knocking on our door asking where she is!