how to handle soon to be 18 year old and visitations.
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So skid will be 18 soon.
Now will his parents still decide for him that he has to be at dad's house and mommas house 50% or does he get to chose where and when he visits parents..I'm lost on this.
As it sounds like bm still insists that he is with dad at least 50% because she doesn't want to be bothered.there was never a visitation order..just 50% custody. .he has his own car..mamma bought it for him (not working so I don't know how that happened) and she's talking about dropping child support and wants to go to court with their dad to get it stopped.
Does the skid then get to choose where and how he spends his time with parents?
Other skid still has a year to go so u til then he has to be shuffled around by mamma .
As an adult he choses where
As an adult he choses where and when he wants to go limited only by the resources he can command. No other person in the world is subject to having his presence forced on them. No different than your next door neighbor.
Thank you..I thought this
Thank you..I thought this would be the case..I'm sure she will still try to convince him to stay with his dad because she's too busy and has been trying to get rid of her kids for the past few years.I'm asking because bf and I will be discussing the visitation soon because she wants him to keep his 50% and no less. .but she can't force this soon to adult on us if he doesn't want it.although I do think he likes being with us more than his
His snobby moms.but whatever. ..she's not willing to give up her time as the parent neither am I..
Our CO never addressed this
Our CO never addressed this issue other than to say that CS and Visitaton continued until the SKid turned 18 or graduated from HS whichever was the later.
However, the County of jurisdiction over our CO also has supplemental rules that apply to all Custody/Visitation/Support orders.
The SLRs say the following on this issue:
A child is not permitted to determine whether he or she visits the noncustodial
parent. However, older teenagers are often involved in their own
activities and are unable (or unwilling) to spend time with their parents on
a regular schedule as they did when they were younger. Both parents must
be considerate of older teenagers and recognize that they wish (and need)
to spend more time with their peers rather than their parents. Parents will
need to make adjustments to accommodate these life changes.
The CO and SLRs all worked pretty well in our situation. Look in to whether or not your jurisdiciton has SLRs that may be beneficial for you to reference or apply in concert with your CO.
Good luck.