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canihandlethis's picture

Yesterday SO goes to pick up SD. He texts BM that he is there and she usually comes out with SD. This time she comes out with no SD. She asks SO if he seen SD when he pulled up. SD isn't in the house and BM doesn't know where she is. They find SD. She is over playing with some kids in the middle of the street.SD is 4. BM kinda shrugs it off like, oh that damn kid never listens. There has been a similar situation a few months ago too. BM is high conflict and SO doesn't know how he should handle this.
I question how observant BM is. We have our own clothes for SD now as BM never sends appropriate for the weather clothes. She still sends clothes though and last time half the clothes were dirty that were sent. She was also sent with two different shoes. And SD is always dirty when we get her, like hasn't bathed in days. She had macaroni in her hair once. That stuff now add to the mix that she had no idea SD was even outside, what is going on with BM.

canihandlethis's picture

SD doesn't even play outside in the backyard unless we are out there with her or we can see her from the window. And we have a child thingy on the front door so she can't open it. She could get hit by cars, someone could take her, she could be molested.

Orange County Ca's picture

I also thought of drugs and alcohol counts as a drug. Child Protective Services would be appropriate, they take anonymous calls.

zerostepdrama's picture

Sounds like your SD is being neglected....Your DH needs to look into this more.

Playing in the street, not knowing where your kid is, dirty clothes, not bathing....um yeah that is big issue in my book.

kathc's picture

Take photos every time you pick her up. Make notes (time, date, condition). If you ever see any rashes, bruises, any other signs of not being cared for take her straight to the doctor to have it documented.

Of course, that's IF you want to try fighting for custody.

If not, figure that at least she's alive and fed and clothed, no matter how poorly.