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Does anyone else have BM that seems to favor or only like one of their own kids?

StepLady's picture

We have this issue...I am sure having a hard time posting I will say more in the comments I guess?

StepLady's picture

BM2 seems to have her whole life revolving around SD and SS is kind of just ok to her I guess. My DH and I agree this is awful but she is a terrible person what's new? If ss participates in something (science fair for example) the pics she posts to her FB page are all SD at the science fair eating junk food and smiling for the camera. SS has missed school so that SD can stay at home for the day (she cries before school she is tired) there for BM will not drive just one kid to school. Weird I know! SS got yelled at and punished for eating the last ice cream treat, it should have been "saved" for SD since she is younger, what? SD goes to the zoo while SS is at school. Seriously weird to me! She has a huge bed, SS sleeps in a twin, even though he is older and bigger. SD gets anything BM deems too young for SD, stuffed animals, games, toys etc. He actually got an electronic for his birthday that BM bought used from her nephew. Crazy! Dh tells SD that she is not a helpless baby even though mom treats her like one and that she is not doing her any favors raising her like that. SD is deprived in a lot of ways too dont get me wrong (she wears ss old clothes and shoes all the time) But we really feel bad for SS. SD is in thousands of pics SS in a handful. SS will ask for donuts all the time because BM takes SD to get them and not him, why? We do not know! We were told that SS was going to play football, never happened of course due to BM being lazy and cheap, but the point of the story was that SD was going to be the "mascot" for the team (according to BM only) and was getting a custom cheerleader uniform made. By the way she did get that cheer leading uni but SS did not even get to play! How embarrasing for everyone, can you imagine? It was way too small for SD, she is very plump, but wore it all the time. How can a mother only like one of her kids to this degree? I only have one bd, so I dont get it! My mom has two daughters and always treated us fairly. My dad is a loser but he was a dickhead to us both equally. I don't get it!

StepLady's picture

We do pay lot of attention to him. One thing he likes to do lately is help in the kitchen so that is our time together, with out SD or DD. He can be bratty, his mom is a crazy bitch so he has his own set of issues, but we love him. We both feel terrible for him. She is just a nasty person! I can not imagine living in her home and being treated like shit. I thought at first it was because he was a boy and maybe she loved SD just for being a girl. DH says she never wanted a girl since they already had boys and was pissed she was having a girl to start with. She wanted to give SD a terrible name by the way but DH vetoed it. I thought she favored her daughter for being the baby for a while, but I do not think that's it either. I think she is just a terrible person and horrible self serving evil witch that should not be near any kids....yes that is probably the reason!

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Yep. BM favors exSSalmost10, her love child with her now-DH, very obviously over SS15. Everybody sees it. This has gone on since birth, according to DH. (Now we know why!) what the younger kid (Faux) wants, he gets, no matter what. SS15 is afraid to even ask BM for a haircut because she'll say she doesn't have the money, then go out and buy Faux a new game for his Xbox. Faux gets new clothes while SS15 gets his SF's hand me downs, which really don't fit. The boys had a cell phone that they shared...guess who it belongs to now? SS15 has complained to us about this unfair treatment. We've talked about it, but he continues to make excuses for it. It's sickening to watch him try to suck up to her, trying to get the kind of attention Faux gets. I feel bad for him because he knows he's treated like shit compared to his brother, but what can we do about it? I wish he'd grow up and get the hell out of her evil clutches, but that doesn't look like it's going to happen any time soon.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

He doesn't want to. He's trying to hard to make BM love him, he'll never do anything to "hurt" her, like move out. It's so sad to see how desperate he is.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

BioMonster favors spawn D7. This kid is spoiled ROTTEN. Screams her ugly little head off until she gets her way - and her oldes siblings give in to get her to stop screaming. This brat could shatter a 10-story building with her screams.

DH and I took the skids to an air show 2 years ago. The boys were riding with us and SDthen16 and her then boyfriend were following in his car. Next thing I know, spawn Dthen5 is getting in my car. I pulled DH aside and said WTH is this? DH said BioMonster told him that Spawn7 was pitching a fit because everyone else was going and she wanted to go to. I asked DH who was going to be minding Spawn7 because it sure as h*ll wasn't going to be me! DH said SDthen16 would be and Spawn7 was just riding with us because the boyfriend's car (SmartCar) didnt' have room. It was AWFUL. We hadn't even been there 5 minutes when Spawn7 pitched a hissy fit about something she wanted that no one would buy her. I walked away and DH was right on my heels saying "SD's problem". SDthen16 had her hands full because every time Spawn7 started screaming, we walked. I'm sure people thought that SDthen16 was the very young mother of this brat (she had on enough makeup to look 20-something). After we dropped off the boys and spoiled Spawn and we were alone, I told DH Never Again. If he wanted to take that brat, then I would turn around and go home and he could go back with his car. He said H*LL NO!! And then got his phone out and called BM and told her under NO circumstances would we be taking "that spoiled little beeyotch" with us again anywhere or any time and that if BM tried that sh*t again, she could deal with the screaming because DH would tell Spawn7 "Sorry Spawn7, but BM LIED TO YOU."

misSTEP's picture

Our was similar. She would have all sorts of reasons why SD was staying home (or she would find things to entice SD to stay home) but almost always let SS come, as court ordered. I've often wondered about that.

I do know that SD would stand up to BM when she'd have her yelling fits. SS would just go into his room instead of being around the drama.

I also know that I have always questioned SS's paternity. I brought it up to DH once and his reaction was such that I never mentioned it again. [Back story, they were broken up for about 7-8 months because she was a harpy who screwed around on him constantly. She came to his door, big as a house pregnant and saying it was his. My thought is that the real daddy took off and she knew my DH was good for CS on SD - and never got a DNA test - so why not with SS as well?]

If SS wasn't my DH's son, or if she even didn't KNOW for sure, I am sure she'd have quite a laugh out of pawning off a fake-son onto us. SD is the spitting image of my DH. SS doesn't look like anyone in either family.

Orange County Ca's picture

Daddy should sue for custody. It takes a mother to raise a boy and a father to raise a man. But this mother is failing even that.

Bribe mother if needed by offering to ask for no child support and he'll continue to pay for girl. Try and get it in writing without actually going to court. Yes its legal if both parents agree and of course its smart to put it in writing. Have both signatures notarized if he doesn't trust her.

Then in a year he can go to court and ask that it be formalized into a court order and ask that support both ways be zero as one kid is with her and the other with him.

hereiam's picture

BM over here always favored SD's older brothers over SD. I think BM has issues with other females.