Too Good To Last
And here I thought Twit was gone, at least for awhile. Yesterday morning she showed up, unannounced, at our house. DH saw her pulling in the driveway and went out to see what she wanted because he knows I don't want to deal with her at all.
Well, she came up to ask Daddy to watch, babysit her dogs over Labor Day! Man, I thought she got the message last time, but being thick headed, I guess not. She was going to make it easy for us by bringing them all (and there are 3 - one is an outdoor dog) up here! Now I have to admit, I went into the bedroom nearest the driveway and opened the window so that I could hear what was being said. Anyway, DH told her NO, she needed to book a kennel and to do it now because they fill up early for holidays. Of course she didn't take this no right away, she pleaded and tried to cajole him, but he stood his ground. He told her we were going to be traveling and not available.
Then, and sit tight for this one, she asked him if we wanted to go in on an RV with them. Then we could all take our dogs when we traveled! DH told her that we were not interested, we are past the RV stage in our lifes.
And this is the best one.....she then asked if we (meaning me of course) would loan them the money so they could buy an RV! Imagine! DH told her no, we would not be doing that. He also pointed out to her that her hubby inherited a good amount of $$ when his father passed and they should tap into that if they want an RV. Twit's response was that her husband didn't want to do that as it was invested so she figured that Daddy would help her out here.
He made it clear he would not and said good bye to her. She must have sat in the driveway for a good 10 minutes after that, why I don't know. Probably crying because she wasn't getting her way.
Now, DH did tell me what transpired out there and what he said. I, of course, didn't let on that I heard it all.
My immediate thinking, when she was looking for the money for the RV or the loan that she wanted to get her hands on my money. Heck, why spend her's when she can spend mine. And you can bet any loan would not be repaid. Also, if we were stupid enough to go in on an RV with them you can bet we would never get to see it as she would always be using it, or lending it out to her "babies" etc.
I tell you, folks, she isn't done yet. This is one twisted, strange Twit.
But I did make it clear to DH that I would not be spending Labor Day weekend worrying about her dogs because we didn't want them to suffer because of Twit stupidity/manipulation. The last episode with her upset me considerably and I will not tolerate it again. Actually, we are going down this weekend to visit my DD and will be home for Labor Day weekend, but we are not going to get involved with Twit carp.
The dingbat just never quits.
She is bat shit crazy. That
She is bat shit crazy. That is all.
hereiam - Oh, you have that
hereiam - Oh, you have that so right. Imagine, after the last fiasco with the dogs, and the nasty letter etc. she has the audacity to show up and want something. Hard to believe, but she feels that daddy owes her because he is her father.
Don't most all evil Step
Don't most all evil Step daughters believe that daddy owes them something? lol
Cat - He learned and is
Cat - He learned and is learning, abiet the hard way.
He says he figures she drove up, unannounced, because she figures she could put more pressure on DH face-to-face than on the phone.
Of course, if I answered the phone, I would just hang up on her after her last nasty episode. And DH actually says he has no problem with that.
I don't say much to DH about
I don't say much to DH about how I feel about this latest nonsense....it would only cause trouble. So I post here.
My feelings are that she should call on some of those "friends" she always talks about - you know, the ones who always agree with her about how bad I am, and get one of them to help her out with the dogs or borrow her money.
And, I certainly have not forgotten this creiten sitting in my living room back in 2011 crying, bawling, about how she was scared that she wouldn't get anything when we passed away! IMHO, this is nothing more than a manipulative tactic to try to get something from me. No way in h*ll would she bother to pay back any $$ that was loaned to her. She probably wouldn't even want to sign a legal note, loan agreement on it because, as she sees it, she is family.
Nope, I know what she is and how she operates. Regardless, it doesn't make it easy dealing with twisted Twit.
What scares me, and concerns
What scares me, and concerns me, is that people like her actually walk around on this planet.
Even though I have disengaged and DH and I have been to counseling on this problem, as long as she is around it will never end because she keeps trying and trying. THAT, my friends is the sad part.
She will get upset and tell DH that she wants nothing more to do with him, storm off, etc. and then, when she wants something from him/us, she is right back like nothing ever happened. IMHO she has no conscience (sp?).
And yes, she does scare me. When one deals with her nastiness she actually has the gall to turn it around and tell DH that it was ME that drove her to write a nasty letter to me! As DH told her, that was nonsense because I didn't put a pen in her hand and force her to write vile, nasty, things to me. But, in her twisted reality, she just doesn't get it. It is always someone elses fault.
Oh, FWIW, she also told DH that they got another postponement on drunkie (that has been going on over 7 months now) and that her pots and pan business is in the toilet. Meaning that is why she wants the $$ for the RV from us I guess.
Did this kid get everything
Did this kid get everything she asked for as a child? A princess?
Those kids seems to have a disconnect with reality and honestly don't understand why it isn't going their way. Her "business" fails so lets go into debt for a RV. Why? Because I want and what I want I always got. Why has things changed?
At least Daddy is now, if he wasn't in the past, realizing that the best thing for her is to find her own way.
A Veruca Salt !!
A Veruca Salt !!
OC - When DH divorced YEARS
OC - When DH divorced YEARS before I even met him, Twit went to live with the mother. But, that didn't work out after a few years (big surprise eh) so DH only had her the last few high school years.
There is something seriously wrong with her. She demands attention and adulation from all and when she doesn't get it goes vicious and mean. She wants, demands, and then can't even bother acknowledging her father for father's day, his birthday, etc. Trust me OC, if she didn't want something, and want it bad, she wouldn't even bother with her father.
But one thing she thrives on, loves, is drama and causing trouble. We, and now since I disengaged, DH is always hearing how she isn't talking to her BM, how terrible the BM is, how the BM LIES etc. (everyone lies except Twit it seems). I also know, this is a fact because she told me years back, that she plays them against each other to get what she wants. Case in point, the BM gave Twit a lot of good quality costume jewelry which Twit showed off to me. But, after showing it to me, made me promise that I would not tell her father than the BM had given it to her. Why? IMHO, how could she complain to DH about the terrible BM when the BM was giving her nice items. FWIW, I did tell DH about the jewelry and he had no problem with it. I recall him saying he wondered why she did that, what was the secrecy, etc.
So you can see how she likes to stir the pot and try to keep everyone upset with each other and then she comes in and plays Miss Magnificant and claims she doesn't understand why everyone is at each other's throat, SHE has no problems. Sick, sick, sick.
I have only met the BM once and she seems okay, but it was only for a short period of time when SS was seriously sick and in the hospital. But you can bet that Twit is a big part of that problem.
She also told him once, in front of me, that if her mother had known back when that DH would have such a nice nest egg, retirement, etc., she would have stayed married to him. And this was followed by her "warning" me that the BM was going to be collecting social security on DH's earning record, that she was warning me about it. I recall telling her that social security was between the BM and the gov. and had nothing to do with either me or DH. She was crestfallen.
Hmmmmm a recreation vehicle ~
Hmmmmm a recreation vehicle ~ hmmm why would you in your right mind give her $$.
I love the ~ inheritance entitlement !!! Wtf ~ spend every red cent you own n donate out the ass to anything and everything you want.
For Xmas ~ I would donate $ in her honor to great causes ~ MS , ALZ n etc
Is this the SD that wrote the letter n you copied it n sent it to your SIL ???
Yep, it is one and the same.
Yep, it is one and the same.
Do you think garlic and crosses would help keep her away from us and our house? }:)
As for Christmas, after my experience with trashy, garbage gifts from her, I don't buy her anything for any occasion. Quite frankly, she isn't worth it to me.
I am making a voo doo doll as
I am making a voo doo doll as we speak ~ <3
Great Stick a few pins in
Great
Stick a few pins in the head, might loosen her malfunctioning brain. Honestly, just when I think I've seen it all she comes up with even more carp.
Dup
Dup
Dup
Dup
Wow, I love it! I have to
Wow, I love it! I have to say, DH is a good guy. he is smart and caring, which has been a good part of his problems with Twit. Things have changed considerably.
Wow. She has some nerve to
Wow. She has some nerve to ask for you and your DH to watch her dogs. So, DH says "no" and she ramps it up and asks you to buy her a RV????? She is in idiot. So what was it????? Did she go to your house to ask you to watch her dogs or to buy her a RV????? I'm surprised she didn't ask for the RV first. I think it was good that you listened in on their conversation as you know what your DH told you is 100% accurate because it's so damn hard to believe that she would do this. It will be interesting to see what she does next. For instance, is she going to call daddy every day and beg him to watch the dogs? Is she going to cry like a baby and say that she can't "get away" because SDM and daddy won't do what she wants? I can't wait to get an update on this story. The idiot twit won't take her dogs to a kennel and she wants you to buy her a RV????? This is sick and wrong.
Interesting point Amber. I
Interesting point Amber. I never thought of that. It doesn't matter though, she is getting neither.
Funny, her hubby has $$$ but she doesn't want to use that because it is invested so she wants us to pop for the RV loan etc.
Honestly, if I didn't hear it with my own two ears I wouldn't believe it.
What can one say except.....Twit!
Amber, now give her credit,
Amber, now give her credit, she did mention going in together on an RV. But you have to understand how Twit thinks (if that is what you want to call it). Her idea of going in together on the RV means that we will buy and pay for it and she will use it anytime she wants and heaven help us if we would want to use it at a time she wants it. After all, she would be paying...err, going on in with us on it. Simple translation...it's her's and all we would get is the bill and the maintenance.
Twizzler - DH doesn't have
Twizzler - DH doesn't have the money to give her for an RV. But she knows that I do so she was hoping that she could get him to put pressure on me. The ole, let's buy one together but you pay for it. Followed with her saying, if I was gullible enough, that she would rather owe it to me than cheat me out of it.
I'm not a fool. That is one of the reasons she cried in my living room about inheritance. She wanted assurance from me that she would get something. Well, she isn't. Everything is tied up nice and tight with a bow on it for my DD and with a living stipend for DH should I pass first. Of course she doesn't know that. I bet she figures that if I go first, daddy gets it all and then she will. Boy is she in for a surprise.
Estate planning is the only way to go....with or without a Twit around.
"--- she then asked if we
"--- she then asked if we (meaning me of course) would loan them the money so they could buy an RV!" Wow! Glad your DH stood up to her. It IS rather sad though: It seems the more irrational she gets, the more DH is seeing through it. I agree with you - you don't have to say anything about SD to DH. She's doing all of the work herself.
Sandye - He may have always
Sandye - He may have always known but never wanted to admit it. When we were first married 20 years ago she started, tried to, start some of her carp with me about her siblings etc. I asked DH if it was true and he said no, that Twit always like to start trouble. In fact, one of the things I know she has problems with is that he called her up back then and told her to stay away from me.
How do I know this? Because she was always telling me he did this and asking me why? How terrible daddy was to her (the same ole same ole). I would always respond to her to ask her father. Heck, I wouldn't touch that with a 10 foot designer barge pole.
I think he is only admitting it now because of the problems we had over her. Hard to ignore someone who works as hard as Twit does to make his life and mine miserable.
One thing I notice he says, lately, after listening to her and she is gone is.....not my problem. I think that is some kind of affirmation phrase for him. He probably learned that in counseling.
Well, Twit is still at it.
Well, Twit is still at it. We traveled to my DD's yesterday and this a.m. got a call on the cell phone from Twit. She wanted Daddy to know she found the perfect RV and wants to get together with him this afternoon to see it. Now, Twit doesn't know that we are not home unless she called the land line yesterday and DH didn't call her back (gonna be interesting to see how many calls she made and what she said when we get back home).
Anyway, DH told her again we are not interested. Note he didn't say we weren't home. Twit was upset and just couldn't understand WHY....this RV is, according to her, so nice! DH said NO, not interested and that he had to go.
All he did was shake his head when he got off the cell. Trust me, she won't give up this easy. I bet the farm on it. Keep in mind, she wants to go away over Labor Day and doesn't want to pop to kennel her dogs.
Jesus, what a pain in the
Jesus, what a pain in the ass! She just pretends she did not hear him say, "No", the first time she asked? Goes to look at RVs anyway? I wonder if her husband knows she is hitting you guys up for money for this RV?
This is really pissing me off for you. I just cannot get over her nerve.
This just keeps going round
This just keeps going round in circles. If I were your DH I would never answer calls. I would have a live recording answering machine such that if she phones up on the land line and says anything important you can lift up the handset, if not it's recorded and just not responded to AT ALL unless the communication is meaningful. On the cells I'd have voicemail and text only and then he can tap in and see what it's about before bothering to respond at all. That way if anything urgent happens he gets there immediately but if not, there's an instant circuit breaker set in before your DH responds. That to me is the only way that he can get her to back off to the next remove. I hope for your sake he does it, otherwise the rest of your life will be devoted to narrative on her calls and approaches about trivia. Are you really up for this? I'd find it so draining in your shoes.
Poodle - draining is an
Poodle - draining is an understatement.
DH hasn't bothered with any messages she has left since the first one. We are visiting my daughter! No Twit carp allowed is what I have told him. He can deal with CRAZY if he want's to when we get back.
Moving is on the agenda, just not right now as I have some health problems that have to be dealt with and I know my doc. and the hospital where I am now. Unfortunately, no matter where we go Twit will always be a burr under the saddle.
This morning I prayed in church that God make her more normal, etc. But in a way I felt sacrilegious for asking that as she is one of God's creatures already. But I know I am starting to understand how Job must have felt and hoping their is a rainbow for us at the end of all this Twit carp.
FWW, after Twit's first call about the RV, I saw DH over on the patio sitting by himself wiping tears from his eyes. Must be very hard to realize what Twit is much less to deal with her. I didn't go out that as I felt he needed to be by himself at that time.
DH said, and I had nothing to do with this, that there is no way in h*ll he is going to chase around for her dogs again. I hope he makes this very, very clear to her, but he did tell her we were not going to be home over Labor Day.
Yes I really feel for your DH
Yes I really feel for your DH too. It must be awful to have produced such a failure of an offspring. But he must grieve alone. Don't try to comfort him. It will only send out the message that he can pretend she is not such a problem by sharing the burden. Sadly, she is solely his burden. Good that he is standing so firm, but the next stage must be the drying up of his tears I am afraid. She is what she is and sometimes an accident of DNA wins over nurture.
Think yourself lucky, my DH
Think yourself lucky, my DH is incapable of saying no to any of his kids or grand kids...and don't they know it!!!!
Go by the vets office and
Go by the vets office and pick up a bunch of pamphlets addressing the immanent euthanasia of pets. Put them in a prominently place in your home, cars, DH's cars, etc.....
Maybe SD will catch a clue and stop bugging your DH about watching her dogs. }:)
Hahaha, like it Rags! The
Hahaha, like it Rags! The worst thing my SD did was set up a store card in her Dad's name, which he agreed to in order to purchase SGD school uniform in the September! By the December SD had completed her (extravagant) Xmas shopping at the same store, and DH received a bill for thousands...even worse her gifts to both of us that year came from the same store!!! I was incandescent with rage, but all he did was close the account, and (to my knowledge) has not allowed it since!!
We are back home. As I
We are back home. As I figured, Twit clogged the answering machine with her earlier calls about the RV.
DH did some talking, unprompted by me, about Twit on the way home. He just doesn't understand what she is thinking and what she is doing about this RV stuff.
I listened but said nothing. My thoughts were that she is desperate because she has lost her grip on me and DH is leaving her Twisted orbit as well. That we might have to deal with this Twit carp until she gets the message. Sadly, I know how she works and she will go totally and completely bonkers at him, and me, in trying to get her way. It is not going to be pretty.
Hopefully, once we get past that carp, life will level out as she might, just might, leave us alone as she won't be getting her needs fed by us.
IMHO, Twit, with this RV stuff is going delusional.
DH has been ignoring her texts on the cell and we left the land line answering machine clogged with her messages so she won't know we are back home. What she doesn't know won't hurt us.
Don't give up hope. Even
Don't give up hope. Even determined, hard-to-train dogs finally learn. I only wish I had the patience you do. It DOES appear Twit has intensified her games for fear she is losing DH. She seems to be more desperate then ever and I kind of expect a false suicide threat soon. Please hang on. (((HUGS)))
Oh Sandye, thank you for the
Oh Sandye, thank you for the hugs so much. This is so draining. I cannot tell you how many times I have just wanted to scream at DH that Twit is just CRAZY etc. But that would only undo all the hard work we have done together in working on getting her out of our lives.
My fear is that Twit intensifying on DH is going to be far worse that it was with me. I am the stepmom, but he, well he is HER father. Yet, she can ignore him on Father's Day and think nothing of it, etc.
Sounds like twit forgot her
Sounds like twit forgot her meds again
Bwahahahaha!
(Sarcasm)
Hi Amber - Yep, probably one
Hi Amber - Yep, probably one of the excuses DH will hear later on. IMHO there is no medication on earth than can help CRAZY! This is one evil, malicious person who gets nastier and nastier when she doesn't get her way.
One thing DH had to learn, abiet still has a hard time with, is that when Twit starts to "rationalize" her bad behavior. She has a way of making it sound like the problem is yours, not her's. The ole, you MISUNDERSTOOD her, she didn't mean it that way, etc., it was her lack of meds, migraines, hormones, etc. that made her do that. That in itself can be totally crazy making and there have been times, even now, that DH falls for it.
I know that when she first would pull that stuff on me, I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt etc. I quickly learned than whenever Twit goes off the deep end and insults, etc., she reverts to the same ole....not my fault, my hormones and headaches made me do it. I remember the first time I confronted her directly about her nastiness and she spewed this nonsense, once again, in her defense. I told her that it wasn't her hormones and headaches that made her mean, it was a conscious choice she makes, period. Guess no one had ever told her that before because of the shocked looked on her face as I turned and walked away from her was priceless. After that, when she realized I had her number, and she would act out, she would "apologize" for her bad behavior to my DH and put him in the middle thus making her look like a good person. What a manipulative piece of work this one is. My response to that was that she should tell me herself, and, of course, she never did. But back then DH was convinced by her conniving that she was really sincere etc. Now, he knows better, though he has had minor set backs, but hey, no one is perfect.
I'd hang in there, and stay
I'd hang in there, and stay on the same track.....you're listening to him and not openly criticising her, but he seems to have realised how manipulative she is! She must be feeling she's losing her grip, so I think you can expect mega-almighty tantrums! Good luck!!
Thanks stepping. And it is
Thanks stepping. And it is the mega-almighty tantrums that worry me. Keep in mind this is one Twisted human being.
Well, here we are....about 4
Well, here we are....about 4 p.m. Labor Day and so far.....TWIT FREE! Gee, I hope by posting this I haven't jinxed myself.
Oh, she has called a few times on the land line, and we can here the anxiety in her voice as she inquires if DH is there and waits for awhile to see if anyone answers her. You see, the voice mail is full from her calls when we were gone last weekend and we, in self preservation, left it that way. Cell phone is off.
It has been totally blissful, no Twit, and we have both enjoyed the "down time" as DH mentioned at lunch to get ready, she will be back, probably with a vengeance, in the next few days.
It has been delightful, visiting with my daughter and her family last weekend, taking our time driving back, dinners out with friends, sightseeing, flea markets. THIS is what retirement should be, not the stress and anxiety Twit puts on us.
I will be putting the house up for sale after I have some healthcare problems taken care of, and that may be a tad as it does involve surgery. And being older, we just don't recoup as fast as we use to. But the bliss we have been experiencing should help me convince DH it is the right thing to do.
Good luck with the surgery.
Good luck with the surgery. At this time, Twit must be told you will not allow any behavior which would stress you out. Period.
Good you will be moving. I hope it is in a location where it is a LONG drive for Twit.
Hi Sandye - Yes, I have
Hi Sandye - Yes, I have already brought it to DH's attention that I require peace and quiet right now. I don't want Twit around, and if he feels the need to talk to her, etc., he should go see her at her place. Knowing how she gets about me, he has totally agreed.
At least he is on the right page with me.
I have been doing research on narcisissts and boy what I have been finding out. If I only knew that back when I might have nipped this cretin a lot sooner. One study I read says that they are terrible gift givers because, lacking empathy, they don't care what they give as presents and they don't have a clue, they are cheap (the me, me, me) etc. This certainly hit the ashtray gift and some of the other things. Also the way she changes from a vicious predator to the victim (attacking me and then crying to daddy that she didn't do that) she's off meds, etc. That is also the norm for her.
And this one is disturbing because it has to do with her "babies", adult sons. She considers them hers alone. Heaven help anyone who gets between her and them. Once, when she was mad (and I use the term mad due to the connotation of frothing at the mouth) she told me she was going to instruct her sons not to have anything to do with me! This came up out of the clear blue sky and at the time I thought it was strange, but that is how she sees things.
But my all time favorite is her dancing around in my driveway bragging about how she is not normal (boy isn't that an understatement!), and never has been, AND she was proud of it! I really wondered about that. It was very, very strange. No one, in my long life, has ever danced around saying that they were not normal. Bizzare. And, while she was doing this I got the impression she wanted some kind of approval from me. All I wanted to do was get the men with the nets and get away from her.
I've known strong people, men and women, who do their own thing, etc. Independent thinkers, etc. We all have flaws being human, but none of them were ever or are mean and not one of them has ever bragged about not being normal.
You mentioned she is a
You mentioned she is a narcissist but many times narcissism and an abnormal need to control others goes hand in hand. The reason Twit is calling incessantly is because she wants to be in control of everything and everybody. Please see http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-a-Control-Freak. (((HUGS)))
Very interesting article
Very interesting article Sandye. Seems the controlling others goes hand in hand with her narcissism.
You know, at first, in dealing with her, I use to think that I might have said something wrong etc. Then I started to realize that almost anything one says to her could set her off feeling attacked. She once asked me where I got something, I said it was something I had long before I met her father and I didn't recall. THAT for some strange reason seemed to set her off crying to her Daddy. DH told me that she felt, for some strange reason, I was accusing her of saying it was hers!?? Now how she got that out of what I said is beyond me. But DH wanted me (and this was back before I threw him out, etc.) to apologize to her because she was so upset.
IMHO, what she really wanted was for me to say that she could have it. That is the only time she ever acknowledges anything....when she wants it.
Crazy making to be sure.
One other thing I do notice, her husband seems to have the ability to control her nuttiness to a point. Seems when she goes bonkers she usually contacts him and he has the ability to calm her down though he tends not to get involved with whatever happened. I'm not sure what is going on there, but it is interesting.
Sandye - I was just pondering
Sandye - I was just pondering that article on control freaks you referred me to. Seems that is right on target. Twit gets extremely mean when she doesn't get her way, can't control me, or her father, and the situation. It is like a personal affront to her. Heaven help any one have a boundary, like not taking care of her dogs while she goes away. All heck breaks out and she is unforgiving to DH. Very, very difficult to deal with.
She still hasn't been around (thank you God!) but I bet before the weekend comes she will surface with a vengeance. After all, she didn't get what she wanted...whether it be us dog sitting or the RV. Neither of which she would appreciate and would consider it her DUE.
Honestly, how do people that operate like that even survive in the world?
SDM, I seem to draw these
SDM, I seem to draw these people to me like a magnet! LOL At this very moment, my brother-in-law and his girlfriend are visiting, and she is a control freak. It's like an echo from past SD visits. Whatever I cook, she spouts off, "I HATE that!" Today we waited by the door of a grocery store over an hour while 'GF' argued with store personnel and searched for the perfect magazine. So I am addressing this as you would an SD: DH cooks and takes them where they want to go.
Sorry, I got on a jag. Your question "How do people that operate like that even survive in the world?" I guess it's a mixed bag. They steam roll over everyone and if you object to it they go ballistic, and God help us, we want to keep peace, whether this person is in a family or in an organization. This is how they get their way - because the average, sane person tries to avoid confrontation. And, in my opinion, this is why, when we have become overly saturated with it, that we over-react or just say, "Roll me over, I'm done." Odd thing is they have no friends, and you wonder how they can keep a job, but they seem to. If someone has a suggestion on how to overpower a control freak, I would greatly appreciate it.
Sandye - In regards to your
Sandye - In regards to your BIL girlfriend - stick with it, they will soon be gone (I hope). But one has to wonder what has happened to manners etc. these days. A host tries to please the guest, they are that...guests but there is only so much one can do. The guest also have responsibilities, at least as I was taught and believe, to be pleasant, clean up after themselves, make the visit enjoyable, etc. Seems so much of that has gone by the side of the road in this self-centered world today. Manners are the glue by which society works otherwise, as we are seeing these days, it becomes a free-for-all. My grandma always said it wasn't the men that "tamed" the west, it was the women when they arrived with children who tamed it by setting the standards and the manners/customs. She was right when you think about it.
Call me old fashion, but the demise of society, to a point, was the birth control pill. While it does have it place, it seem to quickly become the means for all kinds of stupidity by women. Men have, in a lot of cases, seemed to lost respect for women these days and it seems a lot of women don't get it or care. But enough of society going to hell in a handbasket, you get the drift.
She is back again.
She is back again. Supposedly she is scheduled for gallbladder surgery YET she cannot give her father the date or the hospital. Apparently, her husband is out of the country on business and won't be back for 3 weeks. Poor Twit.
Trust me, this is a very interesting chain of events that has led up to this surgery claim.
Claims she doesn't want to inconvenience me so she doesn't want to give DH any of the details.
It is hard to imagnine that
It is hard to imagnine that her husband would be out of town while she is in surgery. From what you write he is a caring person. Also, is her son still living with her? If so, and if he is still unemployed, he can take care of her.
"Claims she doesn't want to inconvenience me so she doesn't want to give DH any of the details." Sorry, but this smells strongly like B.S.
Sandy - he is a caring guy
Sandy - he is a caring guy and no company I am aware of would deny a husband from being with a wife for any kind of surgery. Heck, look what happened with Joan Rivers....one never knows.
I'm thinking she has problems, but I have not known an ER not to admit someone when there is a serious matter, pain, and they can't get an immediate diagnosis. Usually one gets admitted and has tests done so they can find out. They just don't send one home in severe pain.
You are tight - it doesn't
You are tight - it doesn't make sense. It DOES sound like Twit is up to something again. Before anyone commits to anything Twit should give more information. She may not supplying the info to create a sense of panic in other people to have control. I mean, the suicide threat didn't work, did it? What do you think?
Good points Sandye. Control,
Good points Sandye. Control, control, control, and pity, pity, pity. Something isn't quite right.
She has been caught in a lot of lies, like claiming to DH that she sent me a Mother's Day card and then, when DH told her he was the one that takes the dog out to the mail box and gets the mail daily, started claiming it must have gotten lost in the mail. Me? Thought why the heck would she even say she sent a card...I know better. Reason....she wanted us to watch their dogs and had just ignored DH for Father's day and we....I....said NO way, no how. IMO, if she doesn't know who her father is on Father's Day, the heck with her when she calls up the DAY AFTER and wants dog sitting so she and her hubby can get away!
I think she knows I have her number, that I won't fall for goofy stuff she says, like the "I love you Dad, but didn't stop by because I figured you were busy", etc. Translation.....you, Dad, had nothing I needed at that time so I had better things to do.
I have always been her target, but now even more so since DH is not giving her the responses she use to get regarding me. Now it is poor Twit, poor Twit, woe is her, she is so poor she can't afford having him over for a hot dog on their 6 figure income.
Nope, have her number....it is hurrah for her and the heck with us or anyone else outside her hubby and babies.
This one is too stupid to
This one is too stupid to even attempt to disguise her attempts to control and manipulate.
Rags - Any narcissist will
Rags - Any narcissist will tell you that that is the way they are. That there is something wrong with you if you don't think they (in this case Twit) are just the sharpest knives in the drawer.
In June my dad woke up one
In June my dad woke up one Sat AM not feeling well. Within a couple hours he asked mom to take him to the ER. My brother met them there. Within a couple of hours of arriving in the ER dad was in the OR having his GB removed.
GB surgery to my knowledge is something you either need urgently or it can wait. It depends on where gallstones are located. If they are at the input duct (top) of the GB pain tends to be transient. If they are at the output duct (bottom) of the GM pain is not transient.
Dad was nearly 71 when he had his GB crisis. He is a 35mile/week guy who is in stellar shape (unlike his fluffy eldest son). If he was in enough pain to ask to go to the ER any mere mortal would be screaming bloody murder.
My guess is that your SD is manipulating as usual. Even if she is not, the boy who cried wolf lesson would indicate that no-one needs to take it as anything other than her typical manipulation until the hospital calls informing that they are wheeling her in to surgery right now.
Let it ride until her DH gets back.