BM Invited us to her WEDDING!!!
Why? Why would we want to go to this? Do we have to go to this? Does it make us shitty people if we don't?
So BM has three kids with three different dad's. The most recent child's father is the one she is marrying. SS5 is in the middle and then she has an older one as well. I've always thought it was odd how much time BM and her fiance spent with her oldest child's father and his wife. BM and his wife are like best friends, they go on date nights together, its odd. DH can barely stand the sight of BM most of the time, so of course we don't have a similar relationship. I am ALWAYS pleasant to BM for SS's sake but I have no desire to hang out with her outside of SS's activities. Now she invites us to her wedding!!! (DH and BM were never married - they only dated a few weeks - and he didn't even know SS existed until he was 3 months old)so I don't know that it's a 'HA IN YOUR FACE' type of thing.
DH of course has no desire to go to this, even SS thinks it's weird. He saw the invite and said "So you're invited to my moms wedding, that's just weird".
DH's mom was also invited and of course says we HAVE to go to support SS (really I think she just wants us to drive her there because the wedding is FIVE HOURS away).
Should we go to this to show SS we support him?
Maybe she didn't want to
Maybe she didn't want to invite baby daddy #1 and wife and have SS feel left out cuz his dad and SM weren't invited.
Either way it's weird and if she has half a brain she won't expect you to show up
Double post
Double post
No. You think it's weird as
No. You think it's weird as does your DH and SS. Why would u let MIL tell u that u have to go?
Agreed. No way in Hell would
Agreed. No way in Hell would I waste my time celebrating the glory that is BM. What kind of "support" does a kid need at his parent's wedding, anyway?
If it were me, I'd let BM
If it were me, I'd let BM have SS for the event...but, I would NOT go! You're not obligated. And, this would also start to create a pattern for BM to see that no matter how many times she invites you to things...you're not going to be there. And eventually it will stop.
Of course you do not have to
Of course you do not have to go, of course this doesn't make you bad people, and I don't get the correlation between BM's wedding and supporting SS. Attending a wedding is to support and celebrate the couple getting married.
Good Lord, if we had to "support" SD every time BM got married..... Well, it would get tiring to say the least.
There is no way in hell, IN HELL, I would drive 5 minutes, much less 5 hours to go to this wedding.
I'm kinda thinking that if
I'm kinda thinking that if your SS is old enough to think getting that invite is "weird" then he's old enough to understand you're not going (and I'm sure in his own mind he knows why)
I agree with others. I don't
I agree with others. I don't think I'd assign some bad motive to BM for this off hand, but I also don't think she'll be that surprised (or disappointed) by you declining. Why on earth would your MIL want to go?!?! I think your MIL is weird!
You have no idea just how
You have no idea just how weird MIL is. She will tell me how shitty BM is one day and the next day she will be praising her up and down. She nuts, possibly clinically insane.
A woman who has born three
A woman who has born three children from three different men has made a travesty out of the word marriage. What you should do is not attend and tell everyone who asks that you're not going because the whole thing is a sham. Almost every person with a sense of shame would go to Vegas or the county clerk and have a civil ceremony.
She'll be divorced within a year or so and start looking for number 5 so she can get married until she gets tired of him also.
Your SS doesn't need support he needs adults to set an example by not attending this farce.
i would not go. it just so
i would not go. it just so happens that one of the skids is getting married in another state. i am going to make bm look frumpy. all those years i suffered will be worth it.
I would return the invite...
I would return the invite... Mark return to sender. No way I would go to BM's wedding! I've seen pictures of her and FDH's wedding, and I wouldn't want to witness her in a tight fitting white gown with her rolls hanging out everywhere!! It would take everything in me not to puke... It take everything in me not to puke when I see her in her daily clothes!!
RSVP. No then send a generic
RSVP. No then send a generic wedding card that says congratulations and best wishes. It's only polite to send a card. But, wtf, no don't go or send a gift.