Cafe mom is stupid
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I tried to expand my step forum horizons and stumbled upon cafe mom. Boy was I blindsided. They are the worst kind of bitchy. Oh and they swear they adore their skids and want the best for them if posters complain about their skids.
Not saying I don't like mine, by the way. But you don't hear that on here, SP's fussing about their skids in a good way.
Sheesh. Cafe moms, you all are psycho and in denial.
Vented.
Plenty of SPs like/love their
Plenty of SPs like/love their SKs and want the best for them. :?
Believing all SPs share the same experiences and feelings is strange.
Oh yes, I do too! Just
Oh yes, I do too! Just saying, those mo fo's on cafe mom are all about shitting on you. You CANT vent about your skids. If you say anything bad about them they call you a disgrace and say they are better off without you and everyone gangs up. It's just ONE of the stupid examples I can give.
Psh, hey I'm just warning
Psh, hey I'm just warning everyone ;)I already told them to fuck off, I don't care what they think.
Some people may actually like
Some people may actually like CM, just like some like ST. Then there are those who like and are members of both sites.
Maybe people put up with so
Maybe people put up with so much of the behavior from the skids and the spouses parent (lack of or whatever it is) etc, because at times they seem to have a good grasp on controlling the house and things operate semi-functionally. The see a light at the end of the tunnel and want to make it work. *shrug*
I don't put up with it either. I make it known what I will and will not put up with. It is just "getting it done consistently" that needs to work.
On Cafe Mom? The 13 year old
On Cafe Mom? The 13 year old was posting because she's a "mom" and the sibling rivalry with a 7 year old is a "mom" issue? Reeeeeallly?
Ah. Well, I just hope someone
Ah. Well, I just hope someone is in jail for impregnating this child.
Omg. This is so fucked up!
Omg. This is so fucked up! Ugh what is wrong with people!!!!!
BTW, I adore my stepson and
BTW, I adore my stepson and he me. It's the other one that drove me here. And her mother (who isn't a bad person, just not my cuppa).
Right?? Cafe mommies need to
Right?? Cafe mommies need to get laid or something. They just take things out of context and they are MUCH more "I'm a perfect sm and you suck" than ST.
Damn!
What group are you talking
What group are you talking about? I'm talking about StepCentral I believe
In cafe mom.
In cafe mom.
I tried, Ithink it was a baby
I tried, Ithink it was a baby center forum, about Skids... The ladies were so mean to me about how I felt about my situation... It was mainly just a vent. I cried!! (I was 6mo pregnant so hormones probably played a big part in the tears.)
I vowed NEVER again. Then FDH found Steptalk... And my life has been forever changed.
When I vent here, or ask for Honest Opinions, I don't get whipped with mean criticism... Most of the time anyways. But nothing that would ever bring me to tears.
I think one thing that made me cry when I posted my one, and only vent on baby center. One OP (well she wasn't an op, she used her Name as her user name) BUT, she told me I was a horrible mother, and an even worse SM!! And that should have never have thought to have ANY kids!
A real tool. I look back and laugh now, bitch doesn't know me my situation, or my family life.
they are more compassionate and unserstanding BECAUSE tgey have/ had gone through the motuons, just as I am doing now.
Ower fellow STers are much more understanding, because (ibelive) A) they've been there
I LOVE StepTalk!! And will recomend it for any struggling SP.
YES this is exactly what I
YES this is exactly what I went through. I didn't cry, but I didn't stick around to get to that point. Every post I made, it started out great, but it turned into something else as people posted. They twisted and turned me into a bitch and their "followers" just started agreeing with them. They called me a bitch, that my skids didn't deserve to be around me, that my DH was better off without me, etc. All because I ask a hypothetical question to spark an interesting "featured post." They assumed I was talking about my relationship/life which if they read the post it's clear I didn't. Stupid people.
You didn't deserve that and shame on them treating you like that when you were pregnant especially! UGH!
They are all bipolar on
They are all bipolar on there, I have tested them it's crazy! I made a post asking if they knew if a man was cheating would you tell the wife and 95% said NO mind your own business. The next day I made a post asking if your DH was cheating would YOU want to know and 95% said YES of course! Lmao they are a bunch of young immature women that I believe lie 99% of the time of how their life really is.
LMAO!!! Yeah I think woman
LMAO!!! Yeah I think woman don't want to get involved because the person they tell blames THEM and gets pissed at them for some reason. The husbands also get pissed at them for revealing the cheating and if it was a friend then the friendship is over probably, however I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut. I am a golden rule kind of girl and I would definitely want to know if my DH was cheating and would be forever greatful to whoever told me!
It was rediculous ,
It was rediculous , Counceling.Advocate, I had just asked a question about how to handle Sharing between SDthen2 and DDthen18mo... I was torn apart, not knowing that it was a faze toddlers go through, and if properly handled, they would eventually grow out of it. Which they have, thank God.
But, stupid me, at the time I filled out everything on my 'profile' and gave a little background... Like I have here, but I waited a while, just to make sure.
These ladies went to my 'profile' read my background, and thenI had some xcall me loose (because I had just had DD2, and was pregnant again, long story on what went wrong with BC), and they said that they felt bad for DD and SD, and that I shouldn't even consider keeping my now DD18mo. That's when the tears started to roll... I mean HONESTLY how do they think they have the right to choose who is a good parent or not by a brief background and a question?
Bunch'O bitches!!! Hypocritical bitches...
I know!!! Geez! That is so
I know!!! Geez! That is so unfair and mean. Like sometimes I think it gets a little heated on here, but ladies on there make snap judgements based on nothing. On here at least you get a pretty good understanding of what is going on. They don't ask for clarification, more info, anything. I was straight up called a bitch for no good reason and nobody has ever called me a bitch except my exdh during the divorce.
They swear they are the best sm's and don't have the problems I have. So uh why are you even there then? If I didn't have issues I wouldn't just hang out in an online step parenting community lol.
Lmao, lovn life I've been
Lmao, lovn life I've been chewed out on cafe mom for no reason, so I really don't care what anyone thinks at this point! Haha but no I posted this post before bed last night and been at a bday party all day, I don't live on ST.
Xo
Well the skids have been gone
Well the skids have been gone since monday, so life has been pretty laid back. During those times DH and I always have time to reconnect and spend time with my DS7.
I wasn't ever going to move into an apt, but at one time I was going to go to my friends house 45 mins away for a week while my son was gone and leave him to take care of his girls. I didn't leave because I was waiting for DS to go back with his dad, but DH and I had already resolved it in counseling and things have improved since then.
DH doesn't always recognize when the girls are doing something that is worthy of punishment, which i think is stupid. He just isn't bothered as much or whatever but I won't live with their behavior/attitude/whatever. So I'm going to come up with a phrase I can say around them that will let him know he needs to do something before I go insane.
But he does do more, he disciplines more on the spot and is coming up with more creative ways to get them in gear and I am really impressed with the way he talks to them. He knows how to talk the girls through their emotions, and mediate fights/hold them accountable.
No one ever told me marriage was going to be easy. But we always come back together and make up, solve it some how. It is going to be an ongoing problem unless the girls change personalities, as they grow.
SD11 has serious issues. there was a huge meltdown after she hit her sister and she said I and everyone else just thinks shes a bitch, she said putting her in her room (30 min) is the worst thing you can do and wont change her and nothing will make her better (Her words, not mine) and she claims Im trying to make her hate her mom, she said she wants to live with her mom if life is going to be this way. - All in one conversation.
I leave for 10 mins. come back and she apologizes and explains that she says things she doesnt mean and held herself accountable and we talked. Weird. She then said I was the person she felt closest to and that the truth is she doesnt want to live with her mom.
So there's an update. Life is a little better (mainly with DH's cooperation), but the girls come back monday. Luckily school is back in, horray! Now they will be busy with homework, dinner, showers, etc after school and maybe the consistent routine will be good for them and all of our sanity.
I comment in StepCentral
I comment in StepCentral sometimes when I find a post that is similar to my own situation. I haven't been attacked yet but that's probably because I don't post, just comment. I do see the meanness though and the difference between StepTalk and Cafe Mom for sure!
Yes there is a BIG
Yes there is a BIG difference! Their favorite come back to anyone who wants advice or want to vent about skids is "well you shouldn't have married a man with kids". SMH it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know things change, dynamics change after the initial honeymoon stage. I don't believe for one second everything is rainbows and lollipops at anyone of their houses! Lol