BM IS NOT ALLOWED AT MY HOME! It is a very simple instruction. There is no way to misinterpret what I am saying. Yet BM keeps asking to pick SD up here and DH keeps asking me if it's ok. And I keep say the same thing - NO, not now, not ever, no, no, NO!

There are many reasons: My home is my sanctuary. It is where I am supposed to feel safe and secure. I don't want to always be walking around feeling anxious and panicky waiting for BM to show up. I already share everything with that bitch - she had my DH first, she got to make a baby with him, she gets his money, and the rest of our money along with much of our time and energy is spent fighting the non-stop drama that she brings. It's the one thing in my life that is BM-free and I want to keep it that way. There is also a long back-story involved as well, but it's too long to write about here.

In the last 3 years, BM has asked DH directly several times to pick SD up here. When that doesn't work, she tries to negotiate it into the CO. We got another call from our attorney yesterday saying she wants to switch exchanges to the parent's homes. DH called me to ask what I thought. I immediately started saying NO, NO, NO. DH interrupts with "Hear me out, she has a good point..." I couldn't believe him. What about MY point? Does he even care how I feel?

Then when we were on a conference call to the attorney about it, DH says "well, maybe in a few years..." I thought I was going to lose my mind. Are both of them deaf? I said NO, NOT NOW, NOT IN A FEW YEARS. THIS WILL NEVER BE NEGOTIABLE. The attorney and I almost got into it at that point. I told both of them to never come to me again with that request. If she makes it, she or her attorney need to be told NO, NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN. THE END.