disengaging and it feels great
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its like having a horrible pain in your body day after day. you just get used to it. then one day you wake up and the pain is no longer there. you know something is different and then you know the pain is gone.
that is what i feel. one day it came to me that i just did not care anymore. about skids, dh, mil, fil or any of them.
it was like a load off my heart. i no longer felt the pain of mistreatment and being lowest priority on everyones list. i felt at peace to be with myself and my own concerns.
That's great that you feel
That's great that you feel better, but... uh... you're disengaging from DH?
yes. he is clueless. skids
yes. he is clueless. skids are minis.
Oh dear. I kinda get you
Oh dear. I kinda get you there though. Today we had invited FIL for dinner and i was expecting him around 6pm. About 5 pm I was planning to go for a walk to the shops with my 6 month old. Guess what, around 4:45pm I'm on the ohone in the kitchen and next thing this fat bugger of a FIL is in my kitchen. He must still havea key from when he once lived with us.
How rude!!! To just show up like that. I know I'm home alone until about 6pm when FDH gets home and there are times I walk around half naked because it's just me and my daughter.
He just showed up at our house, in our house. He hadn't even called or texted to say he was coming over. Like WTF??!! This was the last time that fat old FIL is getting dinner from me.
Me too! I once blamed myself
Me too! I once blamed myself for not being the SM SD needed...I wondered if some of her acting out was because I wasn't handling it correctly. Then I finally realized you can't help someone that doesn't want help and she clearly doesn't. She is doing all the same things her dead beat mom did to get in trouble as a teen. So be it...DH and the inlaws can handle it, I have my own bios to worry about (and shield from the dysfunction of the inlaws/SD's lives). Now all of my energy is spent on DH and my bios...SD has two parents and it is not my fault her mom isn't acting like one. When I try to be her mom, it is pointless with regard to SD...won't change her one bit...but it does take precious time and energy from my bios...and that is not worth it! Not another minute!
I disengaged from DW for one
I disengaged from DW for one night and that is all it took. Skids are fine. Disengaged from toxic dysfunctional in laws. Drives me crazy that they come over sometimes without calling.