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Dealing with my daughter and stepchildren

cms1978's picture

I need advice. My stepchildren are 8 & 4. They have a lot of problems due to their parents divorce. My husband and myself have custody because BM is a drug addict. They do not listen and insist on constantly yelling and screaming. My 15 yr old daughter is having some real issues with them and says that she wants them to leave because this isn't her home anymore. They mess with her things all the time and she actually has to keep her toiletries in her bedroom to avoid the skids from running of with them or so on. We discipline the skids but nothing seems to work. They are young though. My daughter has had it. Is there anything I can do to make this better or is there anyone who has experienced this?

Poodle's picture

Did your DH actively bring them up or have you both "rescued" them from the BM? what I mean is, was there no forewarning that they were out of control and hard to discipline? I don't understand why this situation was not predictable, so can get where your DD is coming from.

cms1978's picture

Before we were awarded custody, they came for visitation a few times a year for a week or two (they lived out of state). When they were with us they were good and everyone got along. Now that they live with us full time, things have went crazy. I don't blame my daughter either because sometimes I feel the same way. I just don't know how to make everyone get along again. She has gotten to the point that she is so fed up, she don't even want to try and neither does the 8 yr old. My DD actually gets along most of the time with the 4 yr old but definetly not the older one.

Fullofresentment's picture

Sorry I don't have any experience of this bit I hope dtzy sees this thread because unfortunately she also deals with a drug addicted bm