Advice PLEASE! :(
So i have no clue where to start.. My boyfriend that i have been with for almost 3 years, we have a 7 month old son together...he also has a 3 year. There is no trust between us at all. He has cheated on me with BM numerous times in the beginning of our relationship and recently supposedly stopped talking to her.. BM tells me all the time she can have my bf back anytime she wants. She thinks she has some kind of hold over me. He says he loves me..blahhblahh I can't get out of the relationship i'm in. I think he has changed but she always butts in OUR relationship. I have resentment towards SS now because of her. I want nothing to do with him. It's sad but that's just how i feel. I can't get over the fact that he has cheated on me with her and every time we get into an argument he goes to her! She is now engaged and has another child with someone else but still continues to say things to me! All the time about having my bf back at anytime. My bf however, will not say anything to her at all about any of this. He just doesn't care.... i need advice
Gather what's left of your
Gather what's left of your dignity, pack up the baby and leave. Seriously. Get out now. This will not get better and sorry, but your dude isn't a guy worth sticking around for if he cheated and doesn't shut down BM's BS.
This guy will find sex from
This guy will find sex from someone else should his not-so-ex girlfriend marry and as unlikely as it seems cut him off. In that case he'll find another. Meanwhile you're leaving yourself open to sexually transmitted diseases which could be transmitted to your child. Not by sex of course but via lips or even hands.
You owe it to your child to never touch this guy or his things again and the only effective way of doing this is to leave. Like the lady wrote above you are never unable to leave. You just don't want to put up with the inconvenience or trouble of doing so.
If nothing else take your baby down to the police station and tell them you need shelter even if its a jail cell. Threaten to break a window if necessary.
You are not stuck. Call
You are not stuck. Call family, friends, social services, local women's shelters..... and ask for help.
If you do not have a job, get one (or two ASAP). Social services will help you with free or low cost child care while you work.
Sadly, BM is right. She can have your boyfriend any time she wants. He has shown the both of you that that statement is true. Do yourself a favor and let her (or some other unlucky woman) have him.
Why do you hate the SS and not the man who treats you like this?
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How can you create a healthy
How can you create a healthy environment for your own child within a relationship with this guy? The answer IMHO is that you can't.
This has nothing to do with your Skid. This is sad for the SKid and your own child and most importantly this is sad for you.
Take care of yourself and your son. Get rid of this guy and his baggage and move on.
IMHO of course.
You can't have one of them
You can't have one of them without the other being involved because they operate as a triangle with all their lovers. Therapy won't heal this because they like it that way. I'm suprised the BM has not moved in on you sexually (apart from passing on her STDs, as OCC has said). Let her new man be the third point in the triangle whilst you head for the hills. People who lie to you are wasting your time and wasted time is wasted life. Don't subject your precious child to this crap.