Hi, I'm new here. I married my ex-husband in March 1993. He had a 5yr old son, I had a 6yr old daughter, and we had a newborn together. My daughter had no problem with her new step family situation..embraced it. The 5yr like me until he realized i was dating his father. By the time i realized how much he hated me, we were already pregnant and planning a wedding. For years I have stood by while his son came to our home every weekend, telling me i'm not the boss of him, treating my daughter and his new half brother like shit (even tripping him when he was learning to walk, thinking no one was watching). His mother cheated on his dad and left him for another man. and even up until the day I finally couldn't take it anymore, he was still hoping his parents would be together (he was 19 at the time). Over those 14 years, i'd try to find help on my own to deal with the situation, but all i had was Jenny Jones screaming at me on the tv, insinuating that i was horrible. So, ultimately, my way of dealing every weekend was hiding and avoiding this mean kid. lived with stomach aches the whole time. i left the marriage March 2008. Divorce was final April 2009. My heart is so broken because i love his dad so much, and his dad loves me, but i just can't take how mean his son is to me. one would think that his dad could talk to him about it, but after the second year, i quit "reporting" his behaviors to his father because his father thought that his son was "sensitive" and after some twisted convo with his son, it all would turn out to be my fault somehow. well, i come here today, asking advice. his father and i want to get back together. is it even possible? both our hearts hurt so bad because we love eachother so much. but is love enough? his son is now 21 and a senior at UNL in mechanical engineering...and i'm pretty sure, still hates me.