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Midwest Stepmom's picture

Well Bm never dropped ss12 off for Easter vacation and not responding to calls/texts. She keeps telling us her lawyer said she didn't have to. She is so delusional, I could pay a lawyer to say whatever I want as well.

Oh well, the only thing keeping me sane is that we only have 6 years to go until the CS ends and she will have a horrible life.

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Midwest Stepmom's picture

No the CO is every other weekend. This was make up time that Bm owed dh. On ss12 birthday she planned for him to go to monster trucks. She didn't realize that it happened to be dh weekend. Dh didn't want to take the excitement away from ss, so he agreed to it as long as make up time was on Easter weekend. This was all done and agreed to through text. So written communication.

Now Bm says she doesn't have to give him up because it's not his parenting time. Dh the keeps texting back to her; "then can you explain why my parenting time was cut short on his birthday". She replies that's she is not playing his game and to stop contacting her because it's harassment.

It's always "games" that are being played. And I know Bm is not telling her lawyer the truth or giving the whole story. This is her 5th lawyer because she can never pay them. We have had the same one for 8 years, comes in handy.

Midwest Stepmom's picture

Yeah dh and I have been discussing this and we have set ground rules. Pretty much or never change the schedule again, ever. There are times that we drive up to where she lives, 5 hours away, when dh has ss. His family lives up there and we go for a weekend visit. We use to let her just drop ss off at his families house and it would save her 2.5 (one way) hours in driving and gas. Dh is so mad about all of this and all the games, after 8 years you would think it would get better. He has decided that he will make her meet him at the CO place and he will drive side by side.

She did this to herself. We go to visit his family a lot and I know it would save her a lot of money. But no more. This may be petty, but I don't care anymore. I'm so tired of her thinking she wins.

Midwest Stepmom's picture

Yup. She is the dog shaming Bm.

Today she decided to drop ss12 off at FIL for a few hours for Easter. Dh was very upset, we were going to make the trip up there if he was going to get parenting time (5 hour trip), but she ignored his texts last night. So we find out last minute and there is no way we could have made it. Usually we attend all holidays up there, but I'm 8 days away from due date with my first bio, so that's why we were needing communication. A 5 hour car ride is not my cup of tea right now if it's not needed.

On top of that she sat at FIL house for two hours visiting with him. Dh family are nice conservative people that would never say anything rude. This was a boundary crossed and a slap in the face to me. These are my in laws, she choose to leave the family 8 years ago when she cheated on dh and got pregnant with another mans child. Dh texted her and told her going coward to just open the car door and let him out and in return he will be sent out to the car for pick ups. Dh does have a CO stating that if he is not able to exercise his parenting him that any of his siblings, parents or spouse can exercise it.

misSTEP's picture

Yeah, my DH had to miss Easter one year when it was his year, too. BM told him she needed the new insurance information or he couldn't see them for Easter. (Funny side note was SHE hadn't filled out and returned the paperwork that the insurance company sent to HER for us to have skids on MY insurance...and NONE of us had our insurance information because of HER).

I advised my DH to voice record that conversation so we had proof.

When we went to court, BM claimed to the judge (and probably the skids, too) that DH "never showed up for his visitation." Lying c u next tuesday!

I was so waiting for our lawyer to pull out the tape where she clearly said that he could not have the children. But he didn't. I still don't know why. We won anyway (Contempt of Court for Willful Interference of Visitation) but I always wondered WHY our lawyer didn't play this tape that would so clearly prove that SHE was vindictive and unreasonable and thought she was above a CO.