So, another SD-school related issue came up yesterday/this morning.

SD7 says to me yesterday: "Can you please sign my agenda today? Nobody has been signing it." That means, of course, that BD did not sign it last week, because DW signs it every day. Anyway, I go ahead and sign it for her, since I checked and she has no HW today. I proceed to look back through the agenda and it was not signed at all last week. I mention it to DW and that SD asked me to sign. There was some other stuff in the agenda though...

Then this morning SD7 (in a little bit of a panic) says "Mom, I got a demerit last week because I didn't turn in my signed report card. Can you please sign it so I can take it in?" Of course, we did not receive the report card, since she was at her father's house (and was supposed to be signed/returned tuesday night). So, DW has to call BD and ask about the report card. Yes, he has it. No, he didn't sign it. He didn't know he was supposed to... despite there being signatures (including his!) all over the envelope from the other marking periods. So anyway, he brings it over in a rush so SD won't get another demerit.

DW asks if he has been signing her agenda each night. BD replies that, no, he didn't even OPEN her agenda last week. So, no signatures. He also didn't see the three notes from the teacher about the report card needing to be signed/returned, and he didn't see the note about the picture order needing to be returned (or the pictures themselves to avoid charge). So now we know why no homework was done. It also means that he did not practice spelling words, science vocabulary, etc with SD7. Perhaps not surprisingly, she failed both of those tests last week.

Again, DW has to rely on BD to be a functioning adult and parent his child - but instead she has to parent him too. What is so difficult about opening a book and writing your initials?

Then BD suggests to DW that instead of going to summer camp, maybe SD could stay with him every day during the week, and on our weeks she could just come over at dinner and stay the night. SD has been complaining a LOT lately about how they never do anything at BD's house, he never takes her outside, and all he ever wants to do is play video games or watch tv. So, she's starting to realize that BD's behavior is not normal. BD also told DW that the summer camp at SD's school requires you to sign up for at least 6 of 9 weeks to attend. Anyway, DW told BD "hell no" to his idea. Really he just doesn't want to pay for summer camp, which is fine, but for our weeks we will pay for it for her. She is the type of kid who need activities to keep her busy or else she acts out. DW told BD if SD was with him all day without any activities, she'd be very unhappy. BD didn't agree. Then DW looked at the summer camp sign up form, and called the camp. There is no number of weeks requirement. BD was making that up and lying to DW because he doesn't want her to go to camp.

Anyway, I told DW that whatever she wants to do with SD this summer is fine. I don't want to be involved in that decision. Just tell me how much it is going to cost so I can get it in our budget.