Well, Bm called last night as she calls every Wed. night. She said that she keeps calling so she can talk to ss and tell him if he is to ride the bus or not but that's not true because she keeps calling late when ss is or should be in bed. So why not say something like if you don't hear from me you will get picked up at school? Strange.
Anyway, she said that ss was to ride the bus and her ex boyfriend would pick him up at the bus stop. This happened the other week and I was concerned that her ex wouldn't be there on time so I drove passed. Well, this time I kept thinking how many times am I going to check to make sure her ex is there? Why can't her ex just pick him up from my house down the street? I'm going to suggest this to my husband tonight because guess what? Bm's ex boyfriend wasn't at the bus stop on time and ss got off the bus to no ride. Of course he saw my car a little bit away from the bus stop and ran over. I asked him if he saw ex boyfriend and he said no. So he waited in my car until ex boyfriend showed up. He wasn't that late but still. I really hate this!
Dawn
Yeah...
this sounds like a recurring problem... are you tracking it? I would, take a calendar and plot out this, and also the time that he is late. I personally have issues sending a kid on a bus to a wait at a bus stop for an adult, I think the adult should ride the bus to where ever the kid is, pick him up and take him back, personally.
I think you might want to consider having the boyfriend come get SS instead. That way, you know that SS is waiting in a safe location, rather than having to be larking leery on stand by.
I just have a bad feeling about this...
Funny, haha
I told my husband what happened at the bus stop with bm's ex boyfriend and I suggested that stepson be picked up at our house. He said that Bm would never agree to it but he went ahead and called her to tell her that we were concerned about ss's saftey.
He could only get her to agree to let ss walk to our house if there was no one at the bus stop. She wouldn't just say that ss could be picked up at our house. Even this took more talk than it should have considering ss's safety was at risk. She just kept saying that she didn't want to RELY on us yet she would rather RELY on her ex boyfriend who can't even be on time!!! Does that make sense to anyone??
Please! I mean technically, she HAS to rely on us a lot since ss is here most of the time. Why can't she just grow up and be rational?!
Dawn
Why isn't it obvious?
I mean, come on... that would be YOUR in control... dah!
I think with this one, you might try a little reverse psychiatry on her. LOL.
Maybe if you say... You know, I think you're absolutely right, you're sooo right. I mean, why don't we just let SS ride the bus all the way to your house, huh? How about that?
What if you have SS talk to her about how uncomfortable he is waiting at the bus stop? Does he really feel comfortable with this? That's what I would like to know.
here's the thing
If ss feels comfortable or not(which I don't think he does) isn't important to her. It all depends on what works for her schedule and then she tells ss that he will do what she says. Ss is right about one thing. He doesn't get much of an opinion with her.
Bm has the same bus stop as us but her house is farther away the other direction and ss doesn't know any of her neighbors. Plus no one would be home at her house so it isn't really an option for him to walk to her house.
No one would believe how controlled ss is by bm. Sometimes he is brought to tears by the lack of opinion he has with her.
Dawn
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