No More White Picket Fences
Once upon a time, there was a lifestyle where men went to work and women stayed home. In today’s society, you’re more likely to find the power couple. They both go to work (for longer than just 9 to 5) and they are overworked, underpaid, and overstressed. They both struggle to excel in the same status-hungry society and hectic, competitive, career-oriented environment. Couples come home to each other … and instead of being comforted by each other, a new set of problems begin. And most of these challenges can be chalked up to one main ingredient: stress.
Unprecedented levels of stress are taking their toll on romantic relationships. Whether you’re in a committed relationship or single and dating, we are often too busy or too tired to motivate ourselves to maintain feelings of attraction or show our affection. But instead of pointing the finger at your partner for this lacking element, the more accurate offender to charge is stress.
This book was so helpful to understand how women and men handle stress differently! How each of us can lower our stress in different ways. I think it helps women understand why the men get so upset when we get upset. I had read Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, but this is shorter and is directly related to how women and men react to each other during times of stress. It talks about DAILY stress and how our bodies are not made to take stress over a certain level every day. It describes how men want so much to help us women but don't know how. H
The best part was how to argue effectively. It is so hard for women to put aside our emotions when we are arguing a fact we are passionate about, but that it would actually get through to the man better if we are more matter of fact, these are Mars Meetings. On the flip side of that women need to get the emotional side out... we need to feel heard. These are Venus Talks. We tell our guy, "I just want to talk, get it out... all you have to do is listen, you do not have to solve it!" It helps them understand what they have to do...
It works!!! BF only read a little, I read the whole thing. He started reading it before me! It is actually what made him decide that we are good together, we just needed a little help in understanding how each other work!
It is not very long... it is funny.... you will find yourself giggling and nodding as if "yup, that is exactly what happens!!!"
If you try it... even a few things... you will notice a lot of good things happen!
Give it a try!!!
I got the audio book, and
I got the audio book, and listened to it, to and from work.
Finished it in a little over a week.
The beginning
Had me real excited!
I was learning a bunch of stuff.
the middle went over a bunch of various scenarios
Some of it was just to redundant for me, But I managed to get through it.
I kept wondering why he kept repeating himself so much, and it dawned on me that he would read the title of a chapter and then the intro to the chapter would be the same words as the title.
I learned a bunch more about understanding women and why they do what they do. Why are some of the most silliest things, so important to them?
VERY INTERESTING STUFF.