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Twit is back looking for favors - AGAIN

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So, Twit has been rather quiet lately but that came to an end last Friday when DH got a call early in the morning that they were on their way to Chicago to visit friends and would he go and let the dog out later that afternoon!!! Guess one of her live at home adult sons would be handling the dog (this is not the one that was shot, but another) Sat. and Sun.

DH fell all over himself telling her no problem. I listened, but the thought through my mind was it was prettty darn cheeky to call ON HER WAY to Chicago and not the day or so before to be sure it was okay with us. She does this so it puts pressure on her father not to say no because he feels for the pooch.

Anyway, DH did it. Ten miles each way just to let her pooch out. Now, has he heard from her since that time? NOPE, not a thank you, not an offer to pay for the gas, nadda, not even a thank you call. Heck, we have been down here over 2 years now and she has never even taken us out for so much as a cup of coffee! I have to figure out a way to stop this one sided stuff.

DH won't hear from her until she needs another dog sitter or such or some such thing. Which is just fine with me. But I also say that if you ignore us in generally, don't keep calling up looking for something all the time that ends up costing us $$.

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Hi alobyi - I have already disengaged from the nonsense of the Twit, but I am still dealing with hubby who tends to run from being totally pizzed at her to bending over backwards for her.

And yes, I do look at it, at times, as what I would do if it were my daughter. But my daughter knows better, she would ask me in ADVANCE, not after she had left on her trip and was on the road. Twit is a controller and DH doesn't like saying no.

I have already cut myself off from twit, no calls, cards, gifts etc. She is HIS problem. She doesn't like it.

I didn't say anything to DH about it, he told me about her call etc., after I listened in. The part that tees me off is that she knows her father has a soft heart especially about animals. But what he deserves is a thank you for the time expended.

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Hi Foxie - You got the twit's number okay. Yep, it shows what kind of ADULT kids she raised and are still at home. She doesn't want to inconvenience them, but has no trouble inconveniencing her father.

I probably wouldn't be so peeved about it if there was a thank you of some kind. But she EXPECTS. Certainly there can be emergencies that come up, like when her Father-in-law was put in hospice and that was over an hours drive for them. We, hubby and I had no problem taking care of the animals as that is something that, well, matters.

But taking off on a trip and calling DH to take care of the pooch while she is ALREADY on her way is an imposition at the least.