SD Backpeddling according to DH
So, we finally bought our new house up 2 hours away from SD's family. She spent most of the past weekend boo hooing apparently and is very upset that we are moving / losing her daily grip on her daddeee.
This is a major turning point and she knows it. Her daily intrusion into our lives will come to an abrupt halt.
DH said she is now back-peddling and hoping I come around. She sent me a joke via email yesterday. She and I used to exchanged email jokes when we were getting along years ago. I found it odd to find the joke in my inbox from her. She is probably trying to engage me in some friendly banter to break the ice.
I guess she never figured we would move and STAY TOGETHER. Her urgent and mean efforts to break us up did not work. The summer cottage property is also up for sale as we will use some of that money for our new house. This is her big issue - her inheritance of the cottages.
I will probably have to have her and family up once or twice a year, but no more than that. Oh and the house we bought does not have a bunch of spare bedrooms for her and her 3 kids, so if they do come to visit it won't be so comfortable for her either. They would be basement dwellers in the new house.
I am relieved and hope the next month is not too stressful with her crying, poor me, fits!
What I wouldn't give to be
What I wouldn't give to be further than 3 miles up the road from my SDs!
I consider it in very poor taste of her to be openly talking about her inheritance whilst your DH is still hale and hearty! What is the matter with her? I wouldn't have dreamed of asking my very aged parents, when they were alive, how they were providing for me in their will. If one gets anything it is a welcome bonus.
I hope you enjoy the quiet bliss away from the whining SD.
I agree with SA's final
I agree with SA's final statement. That is why I have always been civil to my SDs throughout my disengagement - I do not want to force my DH to reject them or me - I have tried to retain politeness even if it's only on the surface.
If someone launches an all-out attack upon your marriage - they can expect to suffer the consequences if it fails. It WILL require more than an email joke to mend fences.
So true. SA is spot on
So true. SA is spot on again too. They just want me to sweep it all under the rug as usual. so typica lol and dysfunctional. She went way too far this time. I will NEVER trust her again. She really will turn out to be the loser in this game she started.
I agree with what SA said and
I agree with what SA said and will add that SD probably uses her own kids as weapons in her game, which is useless. You can want and encourage your kids and parents to have close relationships with each other without attacking your parents marriage to a SP.
Awesome 20 years......sounds
Awesome 20 years......sounds like your attitude and plan of action on how to stay distant but polite are all working out!
These ADULT stepkids just
These ADULT stepkids just don't seem to get it. They treat us like trash and then expect everything to be just hunky dory when they want it that way. Burned bridges are very hard to fix and never turn out the same as before they were burnt.
Trust has to be earned and once someone shows that they can't be trusted or are vicious, etc., it is very difficult to repair.
Sometimes I think my Twit never got out of the mean girl stage, but unfortunately, I now believe her problems are much more deeper than that.
Great about the new house being smaller, no need to make it the Ritz so they stay longer. I am also a firm believe that NO guest should come without their departure time also arranged.
LOL. I highly doubt she
LOL. I highly doubt she has changed. I am sure DH thinks it is just wonderful. that she reached out to me. I hope it ends. I did not answer the email at all. Just ignore.... and keep moving forward.
Congratulations on the move!!
Congratulations on the move!! Hope the added distance helps.