Ss is taking Civics in summer school. One of the assignments is for him to choose an issue that he feels is important and write a letter to his congressman or senator. Ss was asking who our congressman was here. He told me that he didn't want to write a letter to that congressman so he wanted to know if his mom had the same congressman, which she doesn't. He said that he would rather write to his mom's congressman. I told him that he has to write to the congressman that his address dictates.
That's where the argument started. My Dh has primary custody. Our address is used for all of Ss's schooling, dr's, dentists, sports, and legal matters. Even Bm uses our address for Ss. However, Ss argued that Bm considers her house, his house too so her address should also be his. I pointed out that after a certain age, he can only USE one address. He can't have two addresses when he gets his driver's license. He can't have two addresses when he registers to vote. I know the Civics letter isn't that big of a deal but I think it brought an issue to light that my need to be addressed.
I haven't told Dh about this discussion yet. I am going to tell him today and see what he thinks about it.
Dawn
I'd question why your SS is
I'd question why your SS is so adamant about using BM's address - sounds like he has some thoughts running through his brain.
Maybe SS thinks that if he
does not use BM's then he will pay for it on the next visit.
~All you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust~
Maybe
If Bm actually paid attention to Ss's school work. She wouldn't even know what he was doing in school much less actually read the letter.
Also, she used our address when she had to sign him up for the teen dance place this fall. Even though it always occurred on Fri., which is the only day of the week that ss is at her house.
I don't think that's it.
Dawn
Do you think
he is just trying to be difficult? Is that his style?
Similar concern re: addresses for our situation. DH and BM have joint custody, I don't know all specifics as I have not been divorced. I noticed over last few years, the kids' addresses on some things will list hers, not ours. I mentioned this to DH and he said she might have put her address as primary for school things. However, when SS was enrolled in school it was listed as our address. He has not changed schools, he is in 4th grade, since he began but his address was listed as hers on the lunch bill received from school. Suspicious?
Simple minded
I really think that my ss doesn't really think about the implications of things very much. I'm thinking that he wants to write to Bm's congressman because we've actually met this guy. He was an opposing soccer team's coach for a couple of years.
I'm almost betting that that's as far as ss has thought about it.
Dawn
Dawn, my son did something similar.
I still don't know why he did this but,
At the beginning of this year he brought me home all of the paperwork that they want the parents to fill out. Well he already filled it out. And on every single paper he listed his father first, his fathers GF next, then me. Guess what? He lives with me 360 days out of the year, we live in GA, they live in Colorado. I still could never get a clear answer out of him as to why he did that. I said "Well I guess if you get hurt your dad will be the first to know, that's good because he can obviousally get to you first and take care of you the quickest huh?" I changed it all to my contact info, but it is still strange to me.
~All you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust~
Yeah
that doesn't make sense, does it? Unless he thought that the grades would go there and you wouldn't find out if he got a bad grade. I don't know.
Dawn
I think you are 100% right about the congressman.....
It's just because he's met him.
~All you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust~