According to Ss, Bm has decided that her new neighborhood is unsafe and she doesn't want to live somewhere where she has to live in fear. She has told Ss that they will be moving again when the 1 yr lease is up in March.
She also said that if they hear gunfire(GUNFIRE!!), that they will be moving to a hotel before the lease is up because she will not stay there. Ss supposedly is not allowed to stay at her house alone(even though when we picked him up Sat. morning, she left him there alone for hours before we got there).
Now, what is wrong with this woman? I could tell that it was a bad neighborhood just from driving through it ONCE! I guess she was is a really big hurry to get away from her live in ex. Except now, she is with him more than when they lived together.
Ss claims that Bm and her ex are doing so much together because the 5 yr old doesn't know that they are no longer "together". Ss said that he tried to explain it to the 5 yr old but she won't believe it. Fist of all, Ss shouldn't be trying to explain this situation, the adults should be sitting the 5 yr old down and talking to her. It's so messed up!!!
Also, we had Ss on Sat. from 11am until 4:30pm so he could go to Dh's niece's graduation party. Nothing was said to us that Ss had no place to go at 6pm that same night. Bm was going out to a party and wanted Ss to go with her. He didn't want to go and he said that he asked if he could come here. Bm told him that we wouldn't want to babysit him so Ss had to go to a friend's house to have dinner and stay for a few hours until Bm's former live in ex got off work and picked Ss up. Ss then stayed at the former live in ex's apartment until sometime after midnight. I know this because I checked Ss's phone records and Bm was trying to call him at 11:55pm.
Ss was supposed to be studying over the weekend for a big constitution test that he has today. If he would have come here, he could have actually got some good studying done.
Ss actually said that Bm still thinks it's a competition to see how much time she can get with him. The sad part of that is, Bm wasn't with Ss at all. It's just about the fact that it's her time so she will keep him away from Dh no matter what she has to do to accomplish that.
Dawn
sounds like ss
needs to come live with you and DH...of course, it's hard to get custody modification against the mother and expensive. Is SS old enough that he could choose where he wants to live? lots of judges take the kids opinion very seriously.
"We all have different desires and needs, but if we don't discover what we want from ourselves and what we stand for, we will live passively and unfulfilled.”
Ss is almost 14
He lives here most of the time. I don't think we could get him here anymore without something really, really bad happening at Bm's house. Ss having to go to his mom's, is probably the biggest problem of his in his life right now.
Ss does want to visit his mom, but he has said that he would rather not spend so many nights there.
I don't think that we would get Bm to even consider that, unless Ss was the one that told her.
Bm consistently makes bad decisions that affect Ss.
Dawn
Ugh...
All children deserve the feeling of security. I feel sorry for him and am pissed at bm for putting this on him. Im glad he has yall.
Has there been any updates?
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!
No updates
on the Bm front. Ss is here for 3 weeks straight without having to go to her house. We haven't heard from her since Ss got here on June 15th. Yeah!!!
Dawn
Lol - no news is good news...
or is it?
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!