My ss has been at his Bm's now since June 1st. He will come back here on June 15th. Even though I'm still taking him to school and picking him up and bringing him back here, Bm picks him up at 6pm.
So, all of the meals are provided by Bm. Let me just give you a partial list of what ss has been having for dinner while at Bm's house broken down by day: Frozen pizza, spicy Tyson Anytizers, cheesebuger, 2 hot dogs, cheeseburger, taquitos, pizza rolls. Wed. night ss asked me what we were having for dinner. I told him grilled chicken breast, pasta and corn on the cob. He was just wishing that he was going to get real food.
Yesterday I asked ss when the last time was that he had a vegetable. He hasn't had one since he went to Bm's. So he told me that he wanted a salad last night and that he was going to ask Bm if she would go to the Olive Garden. Unfortunately, Bm has a phobia about going to a restaurant(other than fast food) with just her and her two kids. I don't think she can do it. She needs a man with her. However, ss never realizes these kind of things about Bm.
This morning when I picked him up for school, I asked how the Olive Garden was. Ss said that they didn't go because his mom said she felt like cooking. Guess what she cooked? Pizza rolls!!! At least he said he did have some kind of a salad with the pizza rolls. Wow! So that's cooking to Bm!
This leads me to believe one of two things. 1. Bm is seriously afraid of her gas stove/oven in her new rental house or 2. her former live in ex was the one that did ALL of the cooking, even though ss said it was Bm a lot of the time.
I bet ss just can't wait to get back here if for nothing else but the cooking!
Dawn
Oh my.
Every single thing you mentioned is exactaly what my son is eating right now while visiting his father. Dump a few cups of hot sauce and ranch on it all and he's happy. The other morning I asked him what he was having for breakfast, his reply: Frozen burritos. Gross dude.......
I'm with you Dawn. Some people have no clue about raising or caring for kids and shouldn't be allowed to be parents.
~All you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust~
I try to think though
that eating nothing but junk from time to time is ok as long as it's not 24/7/365. Sometimes I have been known to let my perfect son & skids eat cake and ice cream for breakfast if that's what they want. They eat healthy 90% of the time so I don't sweat it when they go on a junk binge since I know they will get back on track soon. But that's just me.
Not my concern
but according to ss, his 5 yr old sister(Bm and her former live in ex's daughter) eats that junk ALL of the time. Thank goodness that ss will be coming back here soon.
Don't get me wrong, I like my share of junk food, it's just every night for dinner is a little much.
Ss's acne seems to look worse since he went to Bm's.
Dawn
I agree with some junk food!
But not all the time like how Dawn is talking about or how my son eats when they are with the other parent. IT's a total lack of parenting. JMO
~All you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust~
Right!
When you're talking about ALL the time then the precedent is being set for a lifelong habit of eating poorly. My skids eat pretty healthy 'meals' at BM's home where they live but she also allows LOTS of constant snacking which drives me insane. I can't stand to see skids zoned out in front of the tv stuffing their faces when I know they can't possibly be hungry. It's finding that balance that is just sooooo hard!
My SD8 ate nothing but lunchables and fast food for years+++
My FH had her 95% of the time and being a single dad, did NO cooking. Now she hates hates hates anything healthy or home-cooked. I have the hardest time getting her to eat every night. Unless we're having hot dogs or hamburgers for dinner, it's, "Ewww...that's nasty!" which I take offense to. For a while, FH would come in and take pity on her and make her a sandwich but I finally told him that I'm going to raise the kids (his BD and my bio kids) the same way that my mother raised me...I'm making one dinner each night, you can eat it or you can go to bed hungry...it's up to you.
Same thing here jojo
I could have written your first three sentences word for word as it regards the now PASed out SD 10 1/2.
I like your fourth sentence the best but b/c BF has his daddy goggles on tight, Droopy gets rewarded for not eating dinner with a big bowl of ice cream
The BM (girhippo) is a CPS worker and either eats out, or buys junk food for the skids; they eat junk or eat out 24/7/365.
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Deleted because what I originally said was just stupid.
One of the
things that divorce causes is the inability to "control" all the variables in our kids lives. We cannot "control" what time the kids go to bed, eat, see, or hear when they are away with the other parent. Unfortunately, that is the way it is.
Bm
can do what she wants. She can(and is) feed ss all of the junk she wants to. I don't want to control it. In fact, she makes me look really good. Cooking isn't my favorite thing to do either but I know that I have to get a decent meal for ss when he's here. If I feel that way and I'm not his mother, what the heck is wrong with her? There is nothing from stopping her except a lack of caring I guess.
Or maybe it just comes done to priorities. Bm's priority is herself. End of story.
Dawn
try blending a vegetarian
try blending a vegetarian kid with a junk food junkie. i knew this would be an issue. I am just pissed that his daughters diet of mac-n-cheese and well, cheese and pasta, and other varieties of the same will compromise MY kids diet. when it was just she and I, we'd have asparagus, guacamole and chips, brussel sprouts, etc, with no complaints. Now I get pissed because although her father said, yes, I want to eat better to and so should she, he's lazy, and would rather cave than make her eat anything good for her. now and again he'll make her eat peas- he does back me up quite a bit, I will give him credit for that, and I will bend and let my daughter perogies when she's having them- but I hate having to make 2 dinners. So I stopped. When he asked me what were having, i tell him. and if it's something she wont eat, HE has to fix it for her. but it pisses me off, becasue yes, my kid is vegetarian, as am I, but she's far less picky! If it's not meat, she'll eat it. SD has no basis, other than getting him to jump through hoops. once again, I think nanna has much to do with it. once we were out of bread, and SD wanted a sandwich, and my MIL actually said to DH, "well, go get some bread". are you effing kidding me? go out and buy a loaf of bread because she wants it. ugh.
Grand Finale Dinner
Yes, last night was ss's last night at Bm's for two weeks. Ss will be here without having to go to Bm's at all for the entire two weeks. So, what did Bm make for Ss's dinner?..............Ramen noodles!! And there you have it folks!
I'm trying to plan some good dinners so ss can get back to a normal diet and stop eating like he's living in a dorm with a bunch of 18 year olds.
Oh, and in case you were wondering, last night Ss's 5 yr old sister had Cheeze Its and corn dog nuggets......yum!
The best part is, ss never, ever complains about the dinners over there! Priceless. I think he's just happy to get to eat anything because if we were having that crap, he would eventually complain after a few days of it.
Dawn