So I want to make a post for once that doesn't involve me bitching incessantly about my SKIDS or my DH or whatever... Despite the fact that they all drive me bat-shit, doesn't mean that I don't actually LOVE them... well I won't go that far with MIL but everyone else, yes. I love them.
So now I'm challenging myself to say ONE GOOD THING about each and every one of them...
DH - DH has been supportive of me and my dreams ever since we got together. He knew I had some big ambitions that would take me away from him and the family, which I think bothers him sometimes, but he never lets me know it directly, always saying that he wants me to be happy. He talks me up to everyone we know, he does little things around the house and finds little trinkets to show me that he loves me. He's a good father, despite some Disney Daddy showing through every now and again, especially with SD. He's intelligent, he's fun to talk to, and it's not a chore being around him as it is being around most people (that's my take on people, anyway).
SS16 - Ever since we got him away from that little thug jerk in some of my previous posts, he's really changed a lot. With just us around and with us going to church together, he's starting to get in with a nice crowd that is really starting to affect him positively. At first I thought it was all a front, but I've found songs he's written, posts he's made on Facebook and texts he leaves to friends and his girlfriend on DH's phone that are just... sweet. He's actually going in a good direction now and I'm really proud of him.
SS13 - I've never had to scratch for anything good to say about this kid. He's always happy, always considerate, kind (he has tiff with SD but that's pretty much it). He's observant too and has this sense of when someone is hurting.... and he always reaches out and tries to make them feel better. I can't even count how many times I've fought with SS16 or DH and SS13 has just come up to me out of nowhere with a gift or a hug and this "I love you" that makes me cry. He's all heart.
SD - SD is also pretty considerate. I bitch constantly about her cleaning, but the thing I forget to mention is how she'll help me all the time when I'm doing anything. She'll look for little gifts to buy people with their allowance... whenever she gets any kind of a gift, she'll share it with her brothers. And when she gets a chash gift she always wants to do something with the family. Once, BM was threatening to send one of their dogs to the pound because it was sick. She tried to use her birthday money to take him to the vet... I only wish I could tell you all that it worked.
At this time, the only good
At this time, the only good thing I can say about my SD is that she is in her room, with the door closed. And, as for my husband, he is in our room, out of my hair. My 2 bio sons are in their rooms, and when I explained to them what a voodoo doll is, they both asked for one. I am going to New Orleans on Saturday with some friends, to drink daiquiris.
Awesome! I may have to try
Awesome! I may have to try this one day in my blog. Kind of like positive affirmations!
If somebody makes you mad, walk a mile in their shoes before you react. After that, who cares? They are a mile away and you have their shoes!
This is so nice to see! My dh
This is so nice to see!
My dh is my best friend. He is sweet, thoughtful, kind, smart, and funny. He always helps around the house and never judges me. He makes everything worth it.
I have twin ss7. They are both great brothers to my bs 10 months. They adore him and love spending time here. I will call one "Gameboy" (loves video games): he is a challenge. Deep down, he has a good heart though. He loves me and his dad and wants to be here often. He is fun and imaginative. He struggles in school, but he tries hard to behave there and do well despite his ADHD.
I'll call the other ss "Music Man": he is a sweet, kind boy that does his own thing. He loves musicals and shopping with me. He is always planning "parties" and can have fun doing anything. He's very laid back and just an easy kid to have around.
My bs 10 months is the light of my life. He has some sleeping issues, but he is always smiling and loves his mama!
DH: Makes me feel safe and
DH: Makes me feel safe and warm inside his arms. He has OCD so he has no probleem helping my clean. He is such a great person. He is like my other half we think the excat same thoughts sometimes. and the sweetist thing he does is on almost every holdiay he ends up giving me my gifts early becausehe can't wait to see me suprised and happy and then he ends up buying something else so I have something 2 open that day as well.
SS6: even though he pyschially attacked me and throws wild tantrums he has a good heart.He really does love me. He will check on me if I am sick and he does say and do sweet things from time to time. i am happy to be his stepmom so that he has a postive rolemodel of what a mom and wife should be cause Bm is not it lol.
DD: Is the cutest baby alive. I can't wait to take her home and I am so happy to be her mommy.
Step Mom – You entered our family at my father’s side with wisdom and patience. Though of your flesh I was not conceived, you cared and filled an empty need.
I'll play! DH is the most
I'll play!
DH is the most supportive, loving, appreciative husband I could ever ask fer. We're a team 100%. We both went through Hell and back numerous times with our exes, and know we have a good thing, which makes us very grateful for and appreciative of each other.
BS16 has an incredible sense of humor. We like a lot of the same things and he's great to hang out with. I actually enjoy spending time with my teenager! BS had been on High Honor Roll last school year and this one, he's an accomplished martial artist, and he just got his instructor certification so now he teaches the little students. I'm impressed with who he's turning out to be, and this is a kid who dealt with an abusive BF and SM for a number of years.
SS13 is a genuinely good, polite, thoughtful kid. I like him and he likes me. That's not to say he doesn't have his flaws, but I can't really complain too much, especially after reading what a lot of you are dealing with!
SS8...this is harder, but I do try to remember that he is a victim of PAS by his severely Borderline mother. It's not his fault that he is the way he is. I was shocked the other week when I was sick and he made me a get well card. That was sweet.
Liking me is optional.
Respecting me is mandatory.
Excuse me, BM...your crazy's showing.
YAY! I love this! DH: He is
YAY! I love this!
DH: He is very sweet and romantic. He writes me poetry. Sometimes he has ridiculous mood swings and I want to slap him but all in all he's a good guy. He's a good dad despite his guilty daddy tendencies and this weird thing he has about letting the boys do things that are a little above their age(or maybe they just grow up faster than we did) He makes sure I take care of myself and do things for myself like manicures or massages and if I don't go, he will go and get a gift card so I will go.
SS11: Sweet, lovable little boy, who is ridiculously smart. I complain about his cleaning habits but I have to remember that the other place he lives is a pig sty and probably has a hard time adjusting back and forth. He's very generous and even tried to spend his birthday money on me and DS. I do love that he worships his brother (My DS4)
DS: Drives me nuts and in a good way! I love that evil little monkey, he is the best thing I have ever done in my whole entire life and I tell him so. He is such a ham and very sweet and like his brother ridiculously smart. I am so in trouble with him too because he is hell on wheels. I could have asked for a more awesome child.
OH and both the boys look like DH YAY!
"Life-It is sexually transmitted and is always fatal" ~Anonymous
I have nothing. I love my
I have nothing.
I love my husband, he makes me laugh, he rocks in bed, he dusts adn runs the sweeper, and does the laundry. He takes care of me when I'm sick. I enjoy spending time with him when he is not wrarfed into a pussy.
SD I dont have one positive thing to say, she is the splitting image of her mother in attitude and looks.
SD13 I love and often wonder how she can stand her relatives