whatwasithinkin's picture

O/T DD's surgery

My babies having surgery tomorrow to straighten a bunion on her foot. At her request. It bothers her to wear shoes, and this is a kid who for years has suffered with it. Hours of Tourney soft ball, 3 to 5 games a day in spikes. Ive seen her limb around my house for 24 hours after. She has complained about the pain but handles it pretty well. But no 14 year old kid should be limping around like that. I get the play time was high but her sister played the same and didnt limp around like that after. (DD's are twins)

We picked a doctor. I wanted someone young, who she can continue to see. This kid has foot issues with warts and stuff. Swollen sweat glands, yeah she needs a long term foot doctor. I like the doctor he is in his mid 30's maybe. I can tell he is smart, but his professionalism lacks. I get joking around with my 14 year old. My DD can dish it out. One days she walked in and said to him, I just want you to know you recked my outfit plans today because my red pencil skirt needed leggings and I had to some and see you! Mean while she has taken her used clothes from Plato's Closet and looks like she should be on the cover of teen magazine. Doc is up on the lingo, the lol and the brb. He can talk twitter, and social networking. But his language is boarding on uncomfortable. And believe me I can make a grown man blush and have. So I mean its ok but it definatly does make me feel edge about competence. Funny how I relate that

Now I am 43 had a major car accidents and some health issues, Ive had 29 surgeries. Im a professional. Being honest, I dont even blink. Medical technology is incrediable it has made my exsistence much more pain free then it could have been. Ive got more pins and needles then there are hay stacks folks.

I have never seen a surgeon waiver, if he had to make a split decision or was sweating my procedure, or over thinking it, I certainly could never tell.

This is a standard procedure, the bunion is moderate, but can progress to severe. She is 14 folks and I cant put her in a decent heel. Not even good solid built shoes like Clarks. You heard above about how she dresses. Between her limping after doing something she loves and watching her struggle as the girls around her start to embark on the shoe world I want this to be successful for her. I want her not to hurt. My ankle is pinned and plated together. I know what the hurt is.

I called this damn surgeon today for the surgery time and he proceeds to get on the phone and ask me to bring the xrays in for him to review again he is just wondering do we want to do a full correction or do we want to shave the bone down and get the tendons and toe back in line and see if the tendons and ligaments wont tighten back up on their own. We are 24 hours out folks. The concern is she will need another surgery 30/40 years down the road and if we do the full correction now, they have to do the 3rd step correction IF needed later on and its more complicated. As he stands there and says I dont know many people who can take off 12 weeks of sick time for foot surgery.

I dont know what the hell she will be doing in 40 years. Maybe she wont give a shit 40 years from now. Will she have insurance, one would hope but really.

My confidence is shook....I know he just doesnt want to be overly aggressive and he is looking out for the long run for my daughter, but Ive been there 6 times. Me not my Dad.... Me. (Dad does all Orthodintist visits for me) I have brought her to all but 3 of her appointments. We couldnt have this hiccup and rethought prior?


12yrstepmonster's picture

Find a good shoe store that

Find a good shoe store that knows how to measure feet. They are few and far between. It's a dying art.

My dd13 wears a 9.5 AA. Cute shoes are not an option, she can't even keep.them on her feet.