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College kid with an attitude

jkitty104's picture

I live with my BF of 1+ year. My kids have adjusted wonderfully, and really like him. He has 2 kids, and one of them has adjusted really well also. The problem is his oldest son. He is a college student who lives at home. He is arrogant, completely irresponsible, leaves dirty dishes everywhere, won't flush the toilet, loud when everyone else is trying to sleep, spends money like it grows on trees, and expects his father to bail him out everytime he runs short on money. His father doesn't want to makes waves, and will not get after him for anything. He resents the time his father spends with me and the rest of the kids. He refuses to spend time with us as a family, and instead wants his father's undivided attention when he snaps his fingers, which is inevitably when we're going to bed. He lays guilt trips on his father if he doesn't get his way, and his father falls for them. When I try to talk to my BF about it, he becomes defensive of his son, and it inevitably ends up being an argument. It's getting worse. His father actually got after him the other night, and the kid threatened to move out. I love my BF very much, but the problems this kid causes are really becoming a huge issue. What can I do? Is there hope, other than waiting for the day the kid moves out?

oldone's picture

You have a BF problem.

If the skid is old enough to be in college he is an adult. Your BF is not forcing him to be a mature adult.

Just because someone wants to treat you like crap doesn't mean you have to let them.

Your BF is being an ass.