Step Talk

Yesterday was Mother's Day. First off I would like to say to anyone who reads this ... even if you don't have a good relationship with your mother, it is worth celebrating the impact they have on us. They are somewhat responsible for who we are today - whether a stepmother, guardian or birth mother or even a teacher who plays a mother's role ... Happy Mother's Day to you all.

I woke to up a nice email from the ex.
"Don't even begin to think this holiday is about you!" she wrote. "I am the one who gave birth to them. I AM THEIR MOTHER. You are just a stepmom," she continued.
JUST a stepmom. I am certain she is trying to get my goat. She did. Of course.
Just a stepmom ... talk about undervalued words.
I felt this overwhelming feeling of pity for her.
She must be one of the most insecure women I have ever met in my life.
But she has good reason to be: I am the one who has raised her boys for almost five years. I am the one who taught them to read, write, use their imagination, play soccer, write stories ... So I feel pretty secure in those accomplishments. When SS7 cracks a joke, I see a lot of my corny humor in them.
So I feel sorry for her because her envy must be overwhelming. I am sure I will wake up tomorrow feeling less forgiving but right now I feel .... enlightened. As if I can see how she thinks and how it must feel for her to be full of negativity.

I knew a day would come when she felt some form of regret for treating her sons as badly as she has. Surely it must be soon.