What is UP with that? I have the same problem here. I am very stringent about sending anything and everything back with sd that she brings here, whether it be toys, books, clothes, etc. But when I send something back with sd, even if I ask bm to return it next time, it NEVER comes back!! We are so tired of it that sd can no longer take things that belong here to her moms anymore. She whines about it all the time, but I refuse to keep sending things we buy over there with no chance of it coming back. I have other children who will one day be able to wear the clothes and play with the toys that we buy sd, so I don't want them going to bm's house.

I buy almost all sd's clothes at yard sales, goodwill, ebay, etc. I buy one or two new things per season in case we are going out to dinner or somewhere. But I see no reason to drop a bunch of money on weekend clothes. Especially because my sd would wear a burlap sack every day if I laid it out for her. She has no regard for her appearance whatsoever.