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Wow, what a hot topic this turned out to be. I just decided to start a new post in response to the 54 comments. If you need to be reminded of anything:
My Stepmom isn't coming to my baby shower...and I want her to. What to do?
Before I add on, I’d like to say that besides a few minor incidents of disagreement this is honestly the BEST advice I’ve ever received on this forum.
I Have a 18.5 step son that is planning on going away to college in the fall..he has been accepted, but has not sent in or searched for any scholarships...his gpa is about 3.5 or will be when he graduates...he has never had a job...I want him to get a job, and start applying for scholarships and even though we have had about 5- sit down talks with him...he just wants to play video and computer games...I cannot get this kid motivated, or to get to action...even though I have been talking constantly about this for about the last 6 months...any advice help would be great...thank you.
SO and I are having an argument over SD4. I tell him I'm not her mother. SD comes running into the room and says, "you're not my mother?" I thought this truth was self-evident 
I said "no, I'm not, you have a mother." She asked, "momma?" I said, "yes, momma." SO, in his accent says, "you're a momma too." She looks from one to the other and I tell her I'm her step-mother, a kind of mother when she is with her father. I feel very bad that she heard that.
Hear that thunder roaring across the MidWest tonight? That's Loghead. He caught PITA in action tonight!
As per previous blog SD is bad at BM house so daddy comes and saves her. Yay for me because now she is staying with us for a few days because she needs a break from her mother. SD is 10 and she needs discipline because she is little bitch at BM (still not my problem).
So instead of getting the discipline she needs by BM DH just bails her out. I am so fucking sick of it. Now i get her at home with me as well as SS13 because he came along for the ride. I get to look after them and drive them places, BM gets a week off with CS pay.
My mom broke her foot a month or so ago. She broke so bad that the doc will not let her even on crutches! He wants her in a wheel chair. So mom has been bummed about not being able to decorate. Dad isn't too hot on having to do it. So I told her I would come and do it for her. Although I really like to do it so the more the better. }:)
So, I am at work and my mother calls me. SS22 has called her and told her that he is having a friend of his "stop by" to go up to "his room" and get his game system. Mom calls me because she doesn't want this kid coming in the house when no one but her is home, but she never wants to tell anyone no so she makes me tell her to tell them no and then she can blame it on me and no one ever gets mad at her. (nice that I am her scape goat, right? LOL) But anyway, so I ask her, "Why can he not come get it himself?" She said that he told her he didn't have enough gas.
I always grew up with the thought that family is family no matter what. Now I feel like in my house I have two families; 1 is me and my husband and 1 is my husband and his 2 kids. They act as if they don't want me to be around just put up with me. Now my husband and I are fighting because I don't want to take his kids to my parents house for the holidays. I hate myself for saying that I don't want them to have a relationship with my side of the family but I really don't feel like they are my kids, not even stepkids.
Well, it’s time for a little update on the adult loser step kids in my life.
I’ll start with a happy note! The SS34 (35 next month) did indeed move out to his own place the 1st of November!!! (only a month late) I haven’t been there, but I hear it’s a pit. He doesn’t really seem to mind too much and that is good because I made it clear that he’s not moving back with us if things fall apart or he doesn’t pay his bills. I think he’s finally starting to realize that it is only a stepping-stone to better things; or he pays lip service to that idea pretty well.
I dont know what to do. I have told you before that my skids have lied about me lied to me about other people and then told me they didnt like me never had and never will. :? With all that I havent opened my pocket book to them dont take them to do fun stuff, just thought if you dont like me why the HELL am I going to spend MY money on your butts. Me and my DH have talked before about me not wanting to do a whole lot with them cause of the actions that they have had, he agreed which was a shock those are his little girls!