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I always tell myself to blog on this site but the amount of events that happen to me in relation to StepLife are so vast that I am unable to find time to sit and document it
Today, I am in a really dark place. Actually its been a few months but I think today may be that I am in a deep hole....Kind of where I was back in 2017 after experiencing physical and mental abuse from OSS22 (a teenager back then)
I am sitting in bed after work....I took a nap...while napping, my husband was next to me talking to his ex wifes son.
Backstory:
DD30 starts her new job on Monday. She's been making the most of her last week of joblessness.
I had a nice 4-day weekend and went on a road trip with a good friend. We just meandered down to North Carolina to go to a brewery with a naughty name in honor of my dear friend who died 2 years ago in December. Said friend's birthday is this coming Sunday, so she's on my mind.
We had such a blast.
It's been almost 7 weeks since the breakup with zero communication. I also stopped looking at XBF's dating profile nearly a month ago (tomorrow).
So I have yet to get an answer from my sociopathic managers regarding my employment status since Monday when I went to log in and saw a blank schedule.
I did email Human Capital to ask them about severance pay and they emailed me back with a "transition guide"
Bruh ... wtf?!?
Idk if it's legal to just lay people off with no notice but I'm considering consulting with an attorney about this for multiple reasons.
For background - I have known my DH since our teens. We were really good friends. He has a legal name (let's say Joseph) but that is only used by employers and anything else legal. His mother gave him a nickname when he was little that is really not related to his real name (lets go with Richy). Both of us got married very young (20). He was at my first wedding and he got married a week later. Only a few very close friends and family know that he was married. The SS's do not know unless DBDB told them, but they never said anything.
I raised an adult daughter. It was just me and her most of her life. This is my first serious BF with kids.
My BF has 3 kids he gets 50/50 with a narcissist BM, 10 yo girl, 6 & 17 yo boys.
BF bought a house recently and we are preparing to move in together. We've been together a yr and the kids LOVE me (BM different story lol) and I love them as well
So the current situation - the court order is no overnights unless engaged or married (BM does whatever she wants, but usually dumps the kids to her parents on weekends)
It's been over 8 years dealing with my stepdaughter. She's approaching 12 and my god it's getting worse by the day with her.
I can honestly say I treat her as my own child, always have and always will. Now, she is unbelievably disrespectful. It's obviously learned behavior with so much evidence that it is. Her mother allows and knows she gives attitude, disrespects her father, and treats him like shit.
One of my no boundary relatives (who always tries to demand immediate or next day meetups) asked to come over ... at the end of the week (because they assume I'm working for my employer) lol!!!
I'm thinking to myself "wow sufficient advance notice for once in their lives" but I realize that when people think you create your own schedule (ex self employed), you are not working for employer, you're stay at home parent, etc they assume they can bombard your time.
What is wrong with me. Why am I not out of this relationship. And why am I not worth SO putting an end to what he does?SO will not put up the boundaries with BM and kids like he was told by the therapist. He won't stop. He continues to let BM text him every day. Yesterday it was about something SS said to a coach( it wasn't mean this time)Okay if you can't control BM you can control your own fingers and not text her back. But he did . Now baseball season had started and it will give her very easy reasons to Text because of pick ups and asking if SO is going to the games.
Today I have become so angry at SD14's behavior that I have a hard time envisioning coming back from this anytime soon. I'm talking years.
Can I vent about BM please? SS15 has baseball practice twice a week. Travel ball is almost all year round. We love that he plays and we make sure he gets where he needs to be. BM recently moved to our neighborhood, like you can see her apartment building from our back yard close
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