Hello all,
I have been trying for the past 2 years to have a civil relationship with the mother. Recently, I have emailed her several times asking if we could sit down like civilized adults and talk out our differences.

So I pick up my stepdaughter this weekend for breakfast with Santa and she very quickly tells me that her mom's bf needs to be out of their house by this Friday- SD says that mommy is acting really different than before and given the fact that she is 11- I ask her what she meant by that. She states mommy is different- she doesn't talk much anymore, X-Mas tree isn't up, she doesn't answer the phone, etc. So obviously mom is depressed. Let me remind you this is #2 man that left her for another woman.

for those ladies and gentlemen that have AIM my screen name is dianna1350

so I just went to the mailbox and guess what now? My ex and I have been through Domestic's regarding childsupport for the past 2 years. We had a hearing (only the lawyers) in front of the judge last week.

So should I continue to try to make contact with the bio or should I just completely ignore her?

OK to begin with I met my now husband 10 years ago. He had a daughter with a previous girlfriend, for many years the mother kept the girl from him because he left her. Nonetheless when we moved in together, we went for visitations. Over the next several years things begun to get better. After 6 years she finally met someone else. Things started to change, the boyfriend was controlling thus she was not able to maintain a reasonable relationship with either of us. We tried to get shared custody of the girl and the judge did not see it our way. Recently, we found out that she lied for years to Domestic Relations saying she paid her mother 250 a month for daycare that never exsisted. I wrote her a letter along with follow up emails and I now received a letter from her attorney saying I should have no contact with her whatsoever. How should I handle this?