My boyfriend's exwife called to say that after I sent a letter to the attorney who was drawing up the custody papers (my boyfriend's daughter switched schools because she couldn't live by our rules at our house and mommy wanted to run both houses and we wouldn't let her).

Thanks everyone for their comments on being able to request one weekend a month where my daughter stays with her dad, grandmother, friend or godparents. My daughter spent the weekend at her grandmothers (Friday night from 8:00 p.m.

I have been divorced for 4 years now and my daughter lives with my boyfriend and I (going on 2 years). My daughter has very little involvement with her father (maybe once a month or so). She is 17 years old and a senior in high school. We have been through a lot since the divorce and my daughter has had some difficult times dealing with loyalties, separation anxiety, etc. She has been in extensive counseling and is continuing. I too saw a counselor to sort out some of the guilt feelings I have. First of all, I was married for 20 years with a husband who resented his own children. When I made the decision to leave, it was for the happiness of all concerned. I did find happiness with my boyfriend.

We attended my boyfriend's family funeral yesterday and all went relatively well. The exwife said hello and I tried to give the daughter a kiss and she turned her cheek. She never uttered a word. Then they came back towards her dad and she did give him a kiss on the cheek but never spoke to him and went to the other side of the room.

We have not seen my boyfriend's daughter since her mother chose to take her out of the school district we live in and allow her to continue to break the rules at our house which was about July of last year. The only time my boyfriend has had contact with his daughter was when he sent her flowers on her birthday (she called and thanked him) and again the day after Christmas. Other than that, they have not really had any contact. We have to attend a funeral tomorrow and both the exwife and the daughter will be there. You see, the exwife is still very close with his family...

Ok Ladies - Here's one that has nothing to do with the kids...

I have worked for the same company for 15 years. My boss is 3 years older than I and has a wonderful wife and 3 children. We have been through thick in thin with my father's death, my divorce and problems with my children. He has always been very supportive and flexible. We work well together and respect each other as professionals and he treats me as one of his family members.

We have not seen my boyfriend's daughter since the last huge explosion last year. If you remember, her mother tries to run her house and our house. I used to welcome her into our home for her daughter's sake, but that backfired. You see, my boyfriend has been divorced from his ex-wife since their daughter was 4 (she is now 16). The mother and daughter have manipulated my boyfriend for a long time - he used to mow her lawn, shovel the driveway, the ex-wife still attends all family functions on my boyfriend's side of the family "because she has been in the family for a long time"... The daughter refuses to live by the rules of our house and mommy runs to the rescue every time her father tries to discipline or set rules. The daughter doesn't mind if I am in their lives, but not in my boyfriend's family functions because mom feels uncomfortable. You get the picture - I'm the outsider.

My daughter has a wall up when it comes to my boyfriend. She admitted to be jealous of my boyfriend and I think she also feels like if she is nice to my boyfriend it would be a betrayal to her bio dad (who, by the way, is terrible and very selfish and never puts his daughter first when it comes to spending time with her - maybe once a month he'll check in...). My daughter has been in extensive therapy and one of her goals is to have a better relationship with my boyfriend.

Hi All - It has been a long time since I took time to write, but nothing was going on for a while and life has been pretty content because my boyfriend's daughter has not returned. The latest development concerns her.

Well ladies - I didn't call and I'm sure BF's daughter will hold it against me like everything else. Oh well. She did call her father and thank her for the flowers, but that was in the middle of her surprise party that her mom threw for her (flowers were delivered in the morning the party started at 6:00 p.m. and she called and left a message for her father at 7:10 p.m. during the party). I was glad for my boyfriend that she called and thanked him, although she waited for a long time before calling and I wonder who at the party convinced her to call...

The biomom planned a surprise birthday party for my BF's daughter (Sweet 16). I think that the biomom should have invited my boyfriend even if her daughter and my boyfriend are at odds. If it was a surprise, she wouldn't have a say and that way my boyfriend could have made a decision whether to go or not - and I do believe he would have went regardless of how bad the relationship is right now - he is just trying to be a parent and make his daughter understand that she can no longer conduct herself the way that she does and needs to become responsible for her actions...

My boyfriend finally took a stand and told his daughter that she was no longer welcome in our home until she changed her attitude and learned to stop disrespecting and being defiant and had her mother come and get all of her belongings, right down to the bed in her room. I felt it was a little extreme, but something had to change. Mommy dearest gladly came to the rescue and continued to make excuses for her... I told the mother that she should not drop her off the next time she is so out of control that she can't handle her and that her daughter needed to learn not to be so defiant and disrespectful and learn to feel remorse and learn the words "I'm sorry" and it "was my fault"...

to me. I'm always writing in the negative, but today is my B-day and my boyfriend is the most wonderful guy in the whole wide world. He gave me a card last night that sounded like it was written just to describe our love for each other.

My boyfriend's daughter went to a party on Saturday with her biomom (on our weekend) and then she had to work from 5:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. When we picked her up she wanted us to stop and get her a calzone, which we did (we had already had dinner earlier).

Well, my boyfriend's daughter came as scheduled yesterday afternoon after summer school. She stormed into the house, could barely say hello (only after her father asked if she was going to say hello) went in her room and pouted.