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Trying to Disengage

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DH has assured me we will seek counseling this time...if not I am out of here. Cannot continue to live under the scrutiny. In the meantime, I am trying to disengage. DH wants stepson to eat eggs for breakfast everyday, so, I have taught step son how to cook his eggs AND clean up after himself. DH wants SS up by 9:00, so now if I have to tell SS to get up more than once I just tell him he can discuss it with his Dad when he gets home. I have better things to do than spend an hour begging him to get out of the bed.

Never enough!!!!

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So last week, I took our boys, SS12 and BS12 for an outing. We played mini golf, they got 50 tokens each for the arcade, then we went to the mall where they got a cinnabon and went in Holister where they got to pick out a new shirt. All on my dime. On the way out BS12 wanted to stop by Gamestop and look the games. While in there he found a used Xbox game for $20.00. I told him I was not spending any more money today to which he replied he had brought his own money, I said fine and let him buy it. That was a week ago, I never gave it a second thought.

100% fair 100% of the time....is it even possible?

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I love my husband very much. I even love my stepson. I guess in a way we are lucky because there are no bio parents involved, but sometimes it would be nice to have a break. My SS and BS are the same age and actually get along really well. My SS is OK, just some regular resistance that most kids show their step parents, especially not that he is hitting puberty. The problem comes with my sweet husband who was a single Dad,(no help from mom, grandparent, anyone) who made his son his entire life and they have developed a sort of co-dependency on each other.