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It has been quite sometime since I have been on. I think I was pregnant with my youngest and she is almost one year old now.
Things have been hell recently. Exwife has been so awful, her mother has been and so has my DH mother. She has jumped ship from our side over the the ex's. Not sure when their relationship was renewed but I do know it was behind my husband's back. MIL has always had issued wiht her daughter in laws.

What's she playing at???????

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So recently BM has been really nice to my DH. She sent him an email saying she would die if anything ever happened to him or SD. That was just part of the email but she threw that in there. Been really nice to him. We are heading to court soon so I am not sure what she is playing at. Is she trying to get to me? or is she trying to hang onto the time she has with her daugther (DH wants more) or the Spousal support he pays her. She did tell him a few months ago if it goes to court she will make it ugly.

Am I wrong?

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Dh and his EX used to share the same Doctor. Once the marriage ended she decided to get another. His DR knows all about the affair she had and his emotional crap he went through. When I met hubby and moved to his city I startd going to the same office (different Doctor). Our son goes there and our soon to be daugther will go there.

Well, the Ex wants to return there. There are a million other doctors (we live a fairly big city)and she wants to go to this doctor's office and she wants to go to my doctor.

The snake rears her ugly head

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It has been quite some time since I have been on this site. I guess when things seem quiet I just go on my merry way.

A bit of background.....I had a verbal argument with my husband ex last year...said some mean things....just had a miscarriage and they entered my home saying it was inappropriate for SD to refer to me as Stepmom....I lost it on her mom and her. Felt terrible for my actions...did counselling and then months later sent a sincere apology note.....to this day it has not be acknowledged. I needed to let go of my own guilt and get back to living my life.

Trying to fix the problems

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This week has been a turbulent one. I am happy it is just about over.

Well, most of you know about the argument I had with the ex last year and her hatred towards me because of it. It seems that I will never have peace because of her and this hatred. Threatening to take access time away from DH because of me (she doesn't have the power to do that but she thinks she does).

I can't stop crying

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It is almost 2am here and my life has just fallen apart. It is so sad the power that the EX's have and the lack of power that our husbands have. I don't know what to do at this point. My heart aches and I don't have it in me to continue like this for the next minute, hour,day, year, ten years or a life time.

DH and the EX

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This morning my Dh and his Ex went together to register their daugther for grade one. That doesn't bother me. It just got me thinking...how awful divorce is. Here is a milestone in your childs life and you are doing it with an ex. Someone you don't really like any longer. There's no excitement for the child together. Yes, you are happy for your child but you are spending that moment with someone you don't care about.

Is it our jobs ot save the step kids?

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I was reading a recent post and thought here we all are trying our best to save or help out step kids and to do our very best as parents. Many of us have been thrown into this and are just finding our way ourselves. Someone in one of the post wrote that we can do whatever we like but the Biomom has the power to undermine us even if the kids interest are in the forefront but because it is the stepmom it is a bad idea.

She drives me crazy

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Things have been pretty quiet aorund here lately. My mind seemed to be a peace with things. Until......well, it started a week ago. My Sd is in my brother's wedding and the dress fitting had to be arranged around people in the party that are coming in from overseas. So my Dh asked the ex if we could have SD for about an hour to do the dress fitting on one of her access times. ABSOLUTLE not....do not arrange things on my access times. Really it is out of our control and I believe she is being spiteful because it is my brother's wedding.

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