Well the blow up finally happened a couple of days ago. SD19 started with the attitude again and I lost it. I told her she was not to talk to me that way anymore. I didn't let my 9yr old bioson talk to me that way or anyone else and she wasn't going to do it anymore either. Then she started with the you guys don't appriciate me, so I pointed out that we did a heck of a lot more for her that she totally takes for granted so she has no reason to complain about appriciating someone. Girl had absolutely nothing to say...first time for everything I guess. Well she sent a text to DH telling him that I was a nightmare and she wasn't staying there anymore. When he got home she told him she didn't want to be a part of his family anymore and that it seemed like he turned into whatever female he was with at the time. When he was with her biomom he was mean like her and now he's mean like me. Hmmmmm can we see a common problem here? I think she will never realize that the common denominator in all this conflict is her! Anyway, she's gone! She moved out (well at least for now)and went to live where she was moving to a month early. THANK the LORD!! DH actually backed me up on this one. I think after the father's day fiasco he was relieved to see her go. I know he didn't want her to but at the same time it's a big destresser on both our parts. It's only been 3 days and already a big difference. My bioson told me Thursday he doesn't want her to move back because she is too mean. Works for me. Of course she tried 2 or 3 times to lay the guilt trip on DH. Made him a CD and titled it "Songs for a hero", included a picture of the 2 of them when she was about 7 and wrote on the back of it "always Daddy's little girl", told him, we used to get along fine when it was just the 2 of us (again forgetting about the fathers day fiasco, and the time last summer she moved out because he was too mean, she had a party at the cottage and did a lot of damage but he was mean when he yelled at her and made her pay for it.)

I think h@ll might have finally frozen over...or is about to anyway....maybe! Let me explain
We go every weekend out to the cottage.
This past weekend SD19 had some friends coming down from university and they were going to stay at her friends parents house. SD was going back with them yesterday to go to a high school prom with someone she met while she was away last year. (cradle robber LOL) So now it gets interesting

Well the sh*t is about to hit the fan with the SD19 and I. Last Thursday night I came home from work after a 14 hr day.( I work 2 jobs) and as I walk into the house I hear her say "I need a flag". So stupid me I ask "What do you need a flag for?" Then comes the bitchy voice telling me " I wasn't talking to YOU!", ok so I say "excuse me" and with the same attitude I get back "you're excused" Ok I know I asked for it didn't I? )*(&#$)(*

Ok I am so tired of hearing "well she's 19 and too old to change now I can't do anything about it" everytime I tell my DH that I think the SD's behaviour is not acceptable in our house....One of these days I'm going to turn to him and tell him "Yeah well I'm older and harder to change so who do you think should modify their behaviour?" Geez this just ticks me off.

Well I managed to survive the weekend....survive being the keyword here. I figured out a bottle of wine and a few drinks really help!! Unfortunately that's not a solution I want to have to resort to 7 days a week.

Sigh....only 1 more day of sanity left....the SD comes home from University tomorrow, the next 4 months will be a living hell. Pretty bad when my 9 yr son acts more responsible and mature at times. On the up side I will be moving out to the cottage as soon as I can so I won't have to spend the whole summer listening to how 'perfect' the BM is....funny how the child forgets so easily that she hated the women when they lived together.