I know I hardly ever blog anymore, b/c I haven't needed to since SD16 moved back in w/the nutjob. Since Saturday, there have been a few issues I am struggling with and would like some help with.
As I posted in an earlier blog, SD's GP's live around the corner from us, sheer co-incidence, trust me.. anyway, she spends a LOT of time there, b/c nutcase only wants her around at the beginning of the month when the government issues her check. That is the only reason she ever wanted those kids around anyway, for the cash.... Anyway, we haven't seen SD since she moved out in Feb, and DH has only spoken to her a few times.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure,

It is our Light, not our darkness, that frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

please....
I am perplexed by DH's relationship w/sd16. I know he is entitled to whatever type relationship he chooses to have w/her and v/v. However, he complains about her not calling him, (since she moved out in Feb) and her lack of concern for her 2 brothers (our bs'). She also never comes by to visit him, even though her maternal grandmother lives less than a block down the street???? She visits her regularly.

I had to change my screen name, b/c as someone posted, you can go to google and read your posts......not good, so I am now Sia, in honor of my cat "Sia" who was Siamese (hence the name Sia). I had to have her put to sleep last Friday, I miss her so.....

I am very angry and disappointed in Sd16 today. It was my BS (her 1/2 brother) party today for his tenth birthday. He asked me if we could invite SD, I reluctantly said OK, it is after all, his party, not mine. DH calls her two days ago and asks that she come. She said she would be there and was looking forward to seeing her brothers. NO SHOW / NO CALL. After the party was over, and all the guests had gone, DH called her to ask why she didn't show up. It was about 4 pm by this time (party was at noon). She was still in bed!!!! UGHHHHH. BM has successfully turned this child into herself. My son was so disappointed, as he hasn't seen her since she moved out in Feb (except briefly one day in May). What a self-centered child. I know all teenagers are self-centered, but this reeks of BM.

on the other side. Hehehehe. All I can do is laugh, and I will go to hell for it some day!!! SD16 called DH today and was crying about how BM's isn't quite the place she had in mind when she demanded to move in with her. For those of you who are aware of the situation, you remember all the trouble she caused. All the trouble she caused, I'm positive, was her trying to get us to allow her to go with BM. Last week, my therapist said she would "bail out" of that situation soon, and sounds like she has. BM made all these empty promises, and obviously didn't fulfill any of them. I love it. Mean, mean stepmom. I'm glad she is understanding that she really didn't have it so bad here.

to all of your ladies. We are all mother's to our skids, whether or not they live with us. Have a great day!

I have been reading this book called, DIVORCE POISON, and I find it extremely helpful. It is about PAS (parental alienation syndrome). Has anyone else read it, and if so, what are your thoughts? It

last long. SD is refusing to take DH's phone calls. Well, I guess we should be glad this lasted a little over 24hrs. Hmmmm, what's next? DH is so sad now. This is so hard to watch him go through and know that I can't do anything about it.

Well, SD had her baby yesterday....Derby day here. Dh only knew because he called the local hospitals because I had that feeling.... Sure enough she delivered at 5 a.m. So, with my encouragement, he went to the hospital.

I need opinions about this..... SD16 moved out to live w/crazy BM in Feb, since then, we haven't seen her. She did come by once to "move her things out", beyond that, nothing. She does call DH about once a week. Anyway, both SD's and BM are major drama starters, 24/7. DH umpires and my boys play baseball @ a field close to our home. Last yr, SD worked there as a scorekeeper and worked the concession stand. This year, since she moved over 30 miles away, I was hoping she would not be working the ball field this year.

a little bit, and whine some too. A few blogs back, a lady had written about hate for your step-children. A debate was going about this subject, and having lived a similar situation, I saw BOTH sides of the debate. I am going through some very UNEXPECTED emotions now and really just need to run off at the mouth, otherwise known as "word vomit".

of any sites like this one for people with parent's that have dimentia issues? Or ones that deal with in laws? I have some issues with the inlaws, and would love to be able to find a site like this one for that.

There aren't many of those happy days on here, so I wanted to share mine.

Friday we got the call that a judge actually agreed to sign the order that allowed SD16 to live with BM. I am guessing she didn't read SD's history or BM's for that matter, otherwise she wouldn't have signed them. BUT she did. So, today DH allowed SD to come retrieve all her belongings. She did. She is gone.

Hopefully someone can answer this for me.............
Why do skids refer to their father as "my" dad? SD16 called last night to speak with her father and I answer his cellphone, because she refuses to call the house. She says (really nasty I might add), "Is 'my' dad there?" When did it change from just dad to "my" dad. Is she trying to show some sort of possession?