BF went to court with BM on Monday over the child support lawsuit that she so intelligently presented him with when I was pregnant with our child.

When BM informed BF that she had planned for SS to go to a fall festival today on BF's time, BF didn't like it but agreed since BM said she would give BF some extra time with SS to make up for it and

I just read the counter-suit that BM responded with myself and I can't believe it - she's suing HIM for full custody!! WHAT?!

BF's mother, brother, and two nephews came over today to hang out with us and the baby.

Our baby girl was born on September 30, 2008. She was 7lb 4oz and 20.5 inches long. She's absolutely gorgeous and a complete doll.

Thank goodness the site is back up! I've missed you guys and gals so much! So we got a response from BM on the petition to modify custody that BF served her.

I would like for you guys to read these emails and see if you think they sound at all legitimate. I think that there is a lot of made up stuff in them to try to guilt BF into letting her keep SS from coming on visitation. She has always insisted that SS has said he would rather be able to pick and choose when he comes to visit instead of being "forced" to come every other weekend and that that is a major contributing factor to why BF and SS "have no bond". I wish she could see the two of them when SS is here, she'd quit talking about them "having no bond" if she could ever see them together when she's not around! She has also always said that there are things that SS tells her about how he feels and wants to tell BF but he never once has mentioned these feelings to BF or even let on like he feels this way. When SS is with us he is so affectionate and open about his feelings, his relationship with BM and how different it is from his relationship with BF. Am I crazy to think that an 8-10 year old kid could keep up such an elaborate lie for so long because he's supposedly scared of what his father would do if he expressed his true feelings to him? Anyway, here are the emails.

So I have a question for those of you who have been through this situation or have any input for me. SS is 10 and I wouldn't expect a kid of that age to sit around a hospital with us for 2 days through the labor, birth and preceeding stay. However, I don't think that it's necessary for him to avoid the process altogether, is it? BM is asking us to come up with a plan in case I go into labor while SS is with us. She does not want him to be around me in labor and absolutely doesn't want him to go to the hospital. She expects us to either bring him home when I go into labor or wait for her to come get him before we leave for the hospital. She lives half an hour away from us so even if she came to pick him up we'd still have to wait at least that long, and that's considering we can even get a hold of her at all SINCE SHE STILL HAS NO PHONE.

BM and I had a chat last night and this morning. She keeps insisting that if BF really wanted what was best for SS that he'd drop the whole custody thing because it's "not what SS wants" and is "pushing SS away". She never has understood that just because she says SS feels a certain way doesn't make it true and doesn't make us believe her, especially when we're told straight from the horse's mouth that what she says isn't how he really feels. I wish we could record the conversations that we have with SS where he tells us how much he can't stand his Mom, and when he talks about how much she hurts his feelings and tries to make him feel guilty about enjoying his time with us. I'd like her to see videos of when he cries because he has to go home and holds onto his dad for dear life before they leave to make the trip to her house. I'd like to see what she thought about that. I asked her if she honestly believed that everything SS told her was the truth and everything SS told us was a lie, because that's what she's asking us to believe. Why is it OK for her to believe SS when he tells her how he supposedly feels but BF is expected to not believe SS? He's his son. Who wouldn't believe their own son? Then she told me that he should just drop the petition because it's "based on allegations that are totally untrue." I said that the only allegation BF has made is that she's unemployed. If that wasn't true and she had a job, there would be no petition. She said that she has a weekly income so in the eyes of the law she has a job. I said that if she had a job then I would think she would provide proof of that to BF's lawyer since she wants this dropped so badly. She said that in the eyes of the law, getting paid unemployment is the same as being employed because you still have a steady income so therefore it is seen as the same thing. I said it was oxymoronic to consider yourself employed as unemployed, and that there was a difference between working for your money and sitting at home getting paid to not work.

Today is day number 30 since BM was served with the petition to modify custody. She did not have a formal response to the petition, but BF's lawyer was contacted today by a lawyer who is representing her.

When BF went to pick SS up yesterday, BM was sure to tell BF that SS had "some things that he wanted to tell BF." When they got on the road, BF asked SS what it was that he needed to say. SS said, "I'm supposed to tell you that I've been having headaches because I'm stressed about the custody stuff." BF asked SS if he even knew what "custody" meant. SS said no. BF explained what it meant. He talked to SS about how if his Mom didn't get a job, that SS might be coming to live with us for a while and visiting BM every other weekend. SS said, "that might not be too bad." BF asked him what else he needed to talk about, and SS said a couple of other things ("I'm supposed to say that...").

I was at work and a lady came in to see me for an appointment. We got to talking about people we both knew and where we lived. She mentioned that her son was going through an awful divorce but luckily had no kids. I told her I sympathized because of the drama we've had from BM. I noticed that she used to work for the person who BF has had business insurance with for 8 years. It's a small world, so I asked her if she knew BF. She said, "Yes! I know him well! He was married to (BM's name). Oh honey I am so sorry!" She asked about how things were going lately and I told her what's been going on. She said she's known BM since BM was a little girl and she's so ashamed of her. We talked about how BM hasn't had a job in 10 months. The lady said she knew something must be up because BM cancelled her insurance policy on her car. Hmm...interesting. BM is purchasing a new car from a dealership. When they find out she doesn't have insurance on it anymore, they can take the car away from her.

This is the third week that school has been in session, and SS has now missed more days than he has gone. He hasn't been in school all week due to a "severe upper respiratory and viral infection". BM sent BF some emails last night requesting to switch weekends because of this. BF can't talk to SS directly because BM has no phone...so he was stuck relying on what BM said SS wanted to do which is exactly how BM wants it. BF was nice and said that they could switch weekends if that's what SS wanted. When he told me about it, he said that she was concerned that if SS got around me, I could catch whatever it is he has and go into preterm labor. I told him that first, upper respiratory infections aren't hugely contagious and I'm not going to go into preterm labor if I catch a cold. Secondly, you're his parent when he's healthy AND when he's sick. She always tries to pull this "he's sick and needs to stay home" crap and since I'm pregnant that just adds to her excuse. Well I'm sorry but the mother is not the only person capable of caring for a sick child and if you ask me it's his HOME that keeps him sick with these repeat "upper respiratory infections" that he gets 6-8 times a year.

2ndclasscitizen's recent post got me to thinking about the psychology behind why BM's always throw a fit and make such huge drama over the skid's clothing. It seems so childish to us for them to go apesh*t when we do something that seems so simple like washing the skid's clothes.

She opened with explaining that she didn't want to cause a fight. She then told BF that SS was still having headaches and she brought him to the doctor who agreed that it was probably due to stress. BF asked, "Is SS going to school?" Uh, yeah, BM said. "Good." BF said. BM started to complain about how BF is putting stress on SS with his custody lawsuit. "Do you have a job?" BF asked her. She replied that she did, that the paperwork wasn't finished and she didn't know when she would be starting, but that she does have a job. BF explained to her that all she has to do is get a job and everything goes away. BM says, "Well just FYI my unemployment benefits have been extended." Whoopdie-doo! BF said, "Good for you, that doesn't give you an excuse to not have a job!" At that point she started in on how "Well personally I blah blah blah" so he hung up on her. I'll believe she has a job when I see proof. In my experience, when I've been hired somewhere I usually start work that next Monday. She's been claiming for several weeks that she's "gotten a job and just doesn't know when it will start," but when asked where it is she either won't tell or tells a lie. She admitted that the place she told her BEST FRIEND she had gotten a job was a lie she purposefully fed to him as misinformation to see how long it would take for that information to get back to her through the grapevine. Uh, how immature is that? Clearly she's not serious about getting a real job if she's keeping herself busy making up stories about it.