Hi everyone,

My mom sent me this link for me to give my dh. I have printed out my copy and am attaching the link here for you all to read and print out as well. Its very good.. and touches on a lot of what we tend to complain about here!! Well.. as far as the skids and the guilty dad syndrom go.. nothing here about the BM needing to be on meds!! lol

About 9pm on Friday night, my neighbor across the street's son19 had a party in front of the house on the sidewalk and street. This party involved alcohol. They were obnoxious and loud and urinating all over the place (mind you, we live in a NICE area.. not the slums, and not the inner city!) As I have respect for my neighbors (not the 19 yr old), I let it go. I didnt call the cops. I did my best to ignore all this. We eventually went to bed.

When I got home, I blew a gasket. He just stood there and took my ranting like a trooper. Then, when I went to my room, brought me something to drink, and my cell when it rang. I still refused to look at him or speak to him.

I was reviewing our bank accounts to see what I could pay extra to the credit card, and LOW AND BEHOLD.. my Direct TV bill went up $71 from one month to the next. So.. I call.... and was not prepared for this.

We have the skids this weekend. Due to my dh usually being away on Father's Day (thanks Military) this will be the first time since I have been w/him that he will have them.

I have tossed around a lot of ideas in my head, but I guess I wanted to hear what other people plan, see if I can get better ideas!

Did I mention how, because of the crazy bm we have the skids THIS weekend as well as last weekend?? no? sorry.

Ha.. we were not suppose to have them last weekend (a LOOONNNNGGG
WEEKEND) but had them because the weekend before that the BM wanted to keep them.

Its been a week since the blow out w/the less than stable BM. My dh is driving down this afternoon to get his kids.

Its been a week, and I am still upset. Now, I have to put on a positive happy self for the weekend, as the skids will be up here. I have followed your suggestions, and asked my DH to have a convo w/them on the way back up. Asked him to ask them to think for themselves, and believe none of what they hear about me. To base their decisions and actions on what they know for fact from being w/us, and things I have done for them, vs. commentary for ms. looney tunes...

We were supposed to have the skids this past weekend. My dh called to arrange the pickup time, and was informed that BM had plans for her and the skids and he could either 1) get them after dinner on Sat. or 2) get them the following weekend, as a make up.

For awhile now, I occassionally go onto myspace and see if my dh's ex is on there, as well as her new dh. I havent had much luck.. UNTIL TODAY.. I hit pay dirt.

So.. I find the elusive ex.. and start to reading her blogs, thinking I can gain a better understanding of why she does and says the things she does and says. Well. I found it.. I found the reason I think she hates me so freakin much!

My dh got his @ss chewed out by bm over the hair trims we got the skids for Easter weekend. Both skids were in dire need of a trim, as they had deadends. SS9 is trying to grow his hair out. DH explained to him that the hairdresser would leave the length.. just trim it up and make it neat. SS9 seemed ok w/the trim. BM called dh to tell her how upset ss9 was and how dare he cut/trim the skids hair.. and then went on to say some not so nice things about moi.

I brought up the subject again last night, and dh has agreed that we should do what would be in the best interest of any future child that we have, and that we would reprioritize the rooms.

I grabbed my handi dandy little tape measure and was measuring off stuff to get a better idea of how we should shuffle things around in the small 3 bedrooms.

Well.. as I posted earlier yesterday, I was going to let my dh know that when we have a child, I would prefer that child to have their own room, and the skids to share a room (ss & sd) and that we would redecorate the room to accomodate both tastes and put up a partition to seperate the room. Esp. given they only occupy those rooms 24 nights a year.

I just contacted the MA probate court to ask a question regarding the NCP obligations for bedrooms.

I was informed that my dh is under no obligation to provide seperate bedrooms for his kids of the opposite sex, since they are there less than 30% of the year.. 24 nights, 48 days.. that is 7% if you go by the sleep overs and 14% if you go by the days at the house.

So... as most my know, my dh and I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year. We still have not had much luck, but keep planning as if it will happen.

The plans I am referring to are 1) start training the skids now so that the baby is not blamed and 2) get the house as ready as possible, since it was a fixer upper.

I actually contemplated this last night. No really.. I did. A little history..

So, for the past year (about that) I would say that I have been down. I came off some antidepressants to try and get pregnant. We started trying Feb 2007. In April 2007, my husband went out to see for 2 monhts. During that 2 months, my Grandmother died, and an uncle committed suicide the morning of her funeral.