Quick update. Busted husband having a text message "friendship" with a woman from his work that lasted about 4 months or so. He has convinced me against my better judgement that they are friends and his only problem was ot letting me know of the friendship.

That is what my 5 year old said to me today. "You look mad Mommy." After yesterday's post, thanks for all the advice, I still can not get over my husband having these calls and text messages with not one woman but two woman.

Well I always thought the skids would be my issue. This time it has nothing to do with them but I really need some advice/words of wisdom. I just recently fell into some cell phone bills this last month. After looking it over I see a repeated number on my DH cell that I do not recognize. I ask him he says it is a side job. The next day at work I dug a little deeper. THat number appeared the month before but then I fell into another number that contact has been made with for the last 4 months. Not only calls but text messages over 100 a month. Daily contact. I didn't even know he knew how to text. These calls were always when he was at work so I was very well unaware of them. Needless to say they were from a female coworker. DH admitted of the nonpysical relationship but asked/begged to work this out ... work what out I never knew there was anything to work out. I have such a lump in my stomach and all I want to do is cry. I am here raising his kid and our kids and he is out engaging at a minimum in a flurty relationship with another woman. What the heck am I supposed to do? My heart and my mind tell me two different things. Any suggestions would help. I would love to type more but all I want to do is cry again.

Well she is here. I was the hostest with the mostest the first night. Day 2 she went to see his school and then took off with her daughter to go shopping. That is right, she left my son and her son to play at my house for the day with my kids and husband.

We have had my SS for 6 weeks now! He is doing well in school and receptive to the change. NOW tonight bio is comming to spend the weekend with him. She is not having him spend the night with her in order to keep the consistancy.

Picked up SS last night as planned. However, our plan was not the same as BM. She was supposed to meet DH with SS and tell them together that SS was not comming back to her and staying with DH. She didn't even come meet with DH to have the "talk".

BM called last week drunk, said she can't handle her son any longer. Hubby said call me when your sober! Sunday morning the phone rings. I am done will you take him. After many phone calls in the last 2 days he is comming back tomorrow.

Youngest SS, 12 is very screwed up. BM admits that she tries but can't control him. We have offered time and time again to send him back to us. SHe often uses us as a threat to him if he doesn't shape up.

Christmas has now come and gone ... problem, SD goes to grandmothers for X-mas eve, we pick her up at 9, she is cold drunk! Only 15 yrs old. Grandma says what do you want me to do about it! That is the first issue, second, SD says she has a drinking problem, third point/problem, we call bio mom, open communication right??, and she says she doesn't have a problem with that and that she is aware that she drinks and smokes "on occasion" "I don't buy it for them but it is in the fridge in our house." That is what she told us.

Oh how I think ending this whole thing would be easier than having to spend another holiday with skids that want nothing to do with me. I have been portrade as such a piece of crap that at times I actually stop and think ..

After my last post, SS steals money, mom calls dad and says I am sending him to be with you, on and on it went. Dad is ready to go get the boy. BM STOPS does not return calls and then acted stupid when dad gets a hold of her.

After years of talking with bio mom, we get a call, SS stole $1500 from Mom and SD. She asks us what we think she should do. For years now we have tried to work with her to tighten the reigns on the boy and has brushed us off with "the court gave me custudy for a reason!" Now she wants are help.

Skids were supposed to come up this weekend. Last Monday DH received a call from SD saying she joined the gulf team and to make up practices that she missed she has to go in this weekend, our visitation weekend.

Just wanted to say thanks to all of those out there that have made my life easier this last year that I have belonged to this site. I appreciate all of the comments some of which were hard to hear but necessary!

The Skids are up here this weekend and yes again, they are walking around here ignoring me in my own house. Get this, the SD (15) said she didn't want to come up for 6 weeks as planned. So I begged the BF to just let the kids come up every other weekend.