Just wanted to tell everyone here Merry Christmas!!!
Positive thoughts are with you all in your skids exchanges this season and I hope for the same on our end!

Complicated. See I have always had a really good gut instinct on most things but particularly BM. We asked for insurance cost proof in regards to cs.

I was wondering if any of you have contacted your DH's ex wife's husbands ex wife? Follow?

I just feel like opening the window sometimes and running away. I love my family but I just can't take another minute of BM getting into my life. I didn't marry her. Heck, I don't even like her.

So I found out what the new "modification" request. BM is wanting to terminate DH's parenting time all together except for allowing only 2 weeks consecutive in the summer. Can you believe this??!!

It has been a while since I have been on here. I am back to working full time and with DH in school it makes it hard to juggle all.

My bd (5) and bs (7) called SD tonight on the speaker phone. BM answered...didn't even say hello. Just said in a hateful tone...SD is in the shower and will call back, click. Of course we don't act like in our home so bd and bs asked why she was so mean.

Boy, I thought those kind of antics would end along with childhood, but BM just yet again demonstrates how a real live grown up can still act just like a little child!!
So, last week SD called and when we were asking her about school starting she was sad and said that her mom wouldn't let her get any of the things that she wanted. We are talking about a pencil bag and a pink ruler as opposed to just a plain wooden one. There is only like a $.50 difference. Okay...we are broke broke but we can buy a flexi ruler!! So we told SD that we would send her a package. Well, SD had left a tank top from her moms here when she returned so I had to send that and the pictures that SD was requesting anyway so it wasn't a big issue. So I picked up some other little nick nack things that were HSM that I knew she would like too. You would think that BM would be happy that we were spending our money but instead she is now firing at DH today that she has receipts to give him for her medicine.

I don't have a clue!
The other day I had all four kids with me at the doctor (well visit) for youngest BS. I was trying to get the kids to calm down and be quiet and so I told them that if they acted up to remember that they would be up for a spanking by DH when he got home from school. SD asked me why DH gave out the spankings and why I didn't. BD then says that I have spanked her and her brother so why not SD. So we stated talking about spankings. SD mentioned that both her BM and step dad give her spankings. I didn't want to be like "omg...he spanks you too?" so I just looked at her and asked her "who spanks the hardest then?" and she said that her step dads hurt more then her moms.

wish I could report that this past month that BM has stopped with the lies and put SD first for a change but YEAH RIGHT!!! So, BM had taken SD to the psychiatrist after DH said that he wanted a professional treating SD from now on. SD went back to her moms for a week and went during this week. DH called the doctors office the next day to ask to speak to the doctor to see what he said and was met with unsual resistance. The secretary asked him who he was and then asked if there was some kind of custody issue and that he would have to speak to the doctor to see if he could get any information. WHAT???!!! So DH faxed in a copy of the current court order showing the joint custody, and pointed out the paragraph on medical records etc. and imagine that...the doctor called him back. DH called BM and asked what "custody issue" she was talking about and she said that she didn't say anything at all about anything like that. LIE LIE LIE!! The doctor sent DH the evaluation report in the doctors hand and right there was written that BM had said that there was "custody issues still being worked on". So DH was really mad. He tried to call and talk to BM but she said that she wouldn't talk to him and that they "did not need to communicate". She said that if he had a question that he could email it to her. Okay he said so he did. He didn't hold back at all. He told her how he is tired of being underminded by her in regards to SD. Is is the father and that SD's step dad was not her dad and he was tired of getting records with him listed as the father of SD. He also told her that he was mad that she let SD go so far in school failing all the way and that he has the records now and knows that she was lying and that she was the one that didn't get the tutor that he had been paying for for months etc...she replied back hateful and told him that the past was the past and he needed to get over it. Oh, so because she is caught she gets to say that???

I know I just blogged about us letting go but I am soooo mad!! See, SD is supposed to be coming back to us on Sunday. Last week it was confirmed that she would be driven down to meet us by her step dad and then as of yesterday they are flying her. Great...really doesn't change the gas and miles for us either way. We have to drive 3 1/2 hours to the airport anyway. So BM sends the flight arrangements to DH today. She booked her on a flight that doesn't get in until 6pm. So that means we won't be able to be home till around 10pm seeing how we will have to really take it slow driving at night. That makes me so mad. DH has to get up before 6am for classes on Mondays to be on time. He asked her if she could change it seeing how when I booked her last round of flights I called her to make sure they were okay because BM didn't want to have to be at the airport early and BM said that they have "plans" on Sunday which is the reason for the late flight.

We have been contemplating whether or not we want to take on the challenge of going for a change in custody. In this process we have been focusing a lot of attention on getting documentation. Each time we see something our heads spin. BM has been lying much more than we even thought. She believes her lies and them stumbles when questioned about them. I told DH to stop hiding what records that he has because in my mind they are facts and she can't change facts. Well, BM took SD to a psychiatrist. (Dr. still hasn't called DH back btw) BM says that the psychiatrist asked her about what DH had submitted in regards to SD's behavior for the past month and she rebutted it. BM ADMITTED THIS! So, of course this made me mad and I found a Phd here where we live and made an appointment for DH and I to take SD's medical file and school records to be reviewed. This Phd lady also does a lot with legal cases I was told. The catch is the cost.

She psyched out DH!!! She left this message earlier saying she wanted to "confirm plans" so when DH got home he called her. Both phones he said. He came back outside so quick I instantly knew...she wouldn't answer. This was over two hours ago and you guessed...still no call.

So now after DH emailed her to put in writing what she said last night now BM wants to "confirm plans" with him. Who knows what she has come up with this time. DH isn't at home so he'll have to deal with it when he gets here but why won't she put it in writing? Why call? Can't she talk in writing like he asked??? Oh, riiigghhtt...that would mean putting it in writing for the world to see that she wants it all to be her way!!

So BM is supposed to have SD back for a weeks worth of time and then SD is supposed to be returned to DH for his July time. DH agreed that SD could go back early in July because BM was due at end of July. Now all of a sudden here we are days away from sending SD to her and still not a flight confirmation. (Bm is to buy this round per agreement) So DH asks her about it and she says that her doc told her that her baby could be here in less than 3 weeks so she wants to keep SD instead of sending her back and will send her at the end of July. DH asked what if then that the baby didn't come early and she said that she would just keep her then.