So I don't understand why when a mother gives up her children to live with thier father because she couldn't deal with them anymore; does she think after a few years, when they are well mannered and behaved, she can have them back? Does it work that way?? She no only brings up 50/50 all the time but she buys their love and make them feel guilty.

I got an email from my husband's ex. She now wants us to consider her having the boys 50-50. She hopes we come to an agreement before the end of the year so she won't have to take us to court. Was that a threat? Ok first of all she was the one who gave them up to us.

My 13 year old step son with whom I felt I had a great relationship with blew up on me today. They left us on Sunday to spend the week with their mom. He got upset bc my husband asked that they cut the grass if they had a chance. He lashed out saying is that the only reason why you all want us over here is to do the chores. He explained that they stayed up late at their mom's bc her workout stuff is in their room and she workout late last night. Although, I know his actions were bc he was tired still gives him no reason the say the things he said. Bc of his poor attitude he was sent to his room. One time he had asked to come out of his room and I told him not right now, he began to scream I hate this house, everyone in it, kicked over a box of legos and went into his room. They have no respect for their real mom and there was no way I was going to let him talk to me in my house the way he did. I ran upstairs and told him to pick up the legos and put them back into the box, and told him not to ever speak to me with the disrespect he did. He sat there and did what I asked him to do. Went back into his room when he was done. He later wrote me a letter saying how I'm not his mom so stop trying to act like it. My heart is broken and I know kid will be kids and say things they don't mean. It still hurts bc I do everything for them and he and I have an open relationship that I was confused about the sudden blow up. I didn't understand.