I don't know where to begin with this. I guess I will start with some basic information. I am mother to a 12 year old boy and step mother to a 16 year old girl, whose mother hates my guts... Anyways we pay alot of money in child support for sd but husband never gets to see or talk to sd.

I tried to post this before but I don't know where it went, so I am going to try again. I have been married to my husband for 8 years we have been together for 10, he has been divorced from bm for 14 years. They have a 15 almost 16 year daughter together. The thing is,is that bm thinks she can tells us what to do and when to do it. We bought a new car about a month ago and sd comes over and sees it noone says anything about it and then we get this "hate letter" from bm in the mail a week later. Telling us that she can't believe that we went and got a new car right before sd turns 16 and how she hates us and so on. We offered sd our old car, but she refused it on numerous occassions so we got rid of it and now they are mad. A few months before this she took us back to get more child support, which is fine with us because we were paying our child support and half of almost everything else now we are just paying our child support and insurance and nothing more. She told my husband that their daughter didn't want him in her life anymore because he hurt her and that it was my fault that he didn't have a relationship with her and so on. My husband just igornes this and hasn't talked to his daughter in 2 weeks. I however want to write her a letter and just tell her off, but I am not sure i should... It just burns me that she thinks that we should do what she says and when we don't we get these nasty letters about how horrible we are. This is just a small, small taste of what she has done... WHat should i do?