I'm new to the site and now that I sit here at my computer I'm not sure what I want to write. My BF is not yet divorced from his wife, and yes, we started the affair before he even knew he wanted to leave. He has 3 children, from the wife, I have one. The soon-to-be ex-wife moved out in May, and recently the kids were told of our relationship. Things are complicated to say the least, but I'm not so stupid to start whining about a situation I put myself into with open eyes, I'm just trying to figure it all out. What I want to know is how many pple from this site also started out as affairs, and how many are still around after the divorce was final, etc. I am very curious to hear the horror stories of other teenage step-children & how things were dealt with.