Wow, this is nice!!! I have the house to myself, and DH has the kiddos. ALL 3 OF THEM!!! We were able to get SS for a 3 day weekend. It's been about 5 months since we have seen him so we were soooo excited to have him, if only for a short while.

Ok, for the past several months, we have not had any contact with SS11. We have been uncertain as to his whereabouts, b/c BB has been moving back and forth, not returning calls, etc. Recently, I saw her blog on myspace (posted in my previous blog)and realizing that she was moving out of her mom's, to an apt. of her own. SS would not be living w/her. To make matters worse she was leaving him w/her felonious mother. Which means he will be going out on numerous repos(his GM chosen profession)on school nights, just like the good ol' days. So, basically, while she collects hubby's hard earned CS money-she's also given up complete responsibility for SS, as he interferes with her nightlife.

It has been months since we have seen or heard from SS. We are not even sure where he is staying right now. DH has tried calling BB, texting, to no avail. She refuses to talk to us, or let SS call. Here is a little rundown: in the past 6 years BB has moved/crashed with friends nealy 20x. 15 different jobs-currently bartending. Nearly 10 different lovers/soulmates. SS has been to 4 schools, one of them 3 seperate times b/c she keeps moving in at her mothers(who btw is a lunatic) BB and her mom have a highly volatile relationship, and she has gotten kicked out of there more times than you can shake a stick at. All SS knows is domestic dispute situations due to BB irratic behavior. Whether it is his GM or one of her numerous BF's, he always gets to witness hostility.

Well I just got back from a long wonderful vacation in CA and wanted to drop in and see how everyone was gettin along...Boy, was I appalled when I read the infamous anonomous comment made in reference to the fantasies of retribution blog. Absolutely stunning how people are willing to poison their children's minds. It really got my wheels turning. I've been doing the whole step-parent bit for 7 years now, since the age of 20, and I will admit-in my younger less mature days, I had my share of ill-willed fantasies. Now, it took me sometime to realize that our thoughts should be closely monitered. All these negative, hateful feelings and thoughts are dangerous- they NEVER help any situation. I no longer want BM to suffer or fail, she's already done plenty of that, and all it does is hurt SS. I find myself now more than ever hoping she will finally be successful, happy, sane etc...I know it sounds strange, but I just want a better life for my SS. And no matter how much crap she has put him and us through, I will always hope that she finally "GETS IT". That being some emotional intelligence, so hopefully some of it can rub off on SS before it's too late. I wanted to share one of my favorite quotes from the famous sleeping prophet, Edgar Cayce:

Well, I found this site about a month ago, and thank God! I don't really have any friends that are in the same situation as me, so I am thrilled about having SOMEWHERE to turn. So I've been reading some of your blogs, and by the looks of them, tis' the season for baby mama drama...Maybe it's always the season.