We just purchased my SD a car for her 18th birthday. The issue I am having is that she has lied to her father and I stating that she is with the mother for the weekend when she is not. She has rules here with us that is why she leaves on the weekends. I just went into her room and read a notebook that stated she was drunk over the weekend and chances are she was in the car. It realy upsets me that my husband and I sacrificed so much to get her this car and she does this. Was I wrong for reading her notebook? How do we approach her about the drinking?

I'm having an issue with my SD. Lately she has been staying at our house due to her and her mother not getting along. I have been doing everything for her, taking her to school, to work and everything else that comes with a 17 year old.

I have a SD that is about to graduate this year. The issue that I'm havin is that the BM will not help with her graduation needs. We have nearly spent 1000 on pics. ring and invites. I know that my SD wants me to give her mom invites and pics, but I feel that her mom should help out with something.

I'm just wondering if I am over reacting. I have a SD that is 17, she has been working off and on since she was 16. I am a little hurt that she has never thought about me in the sense of taking me to a movie or just buying me something just because she thought of me.

I have a 17 year old SD that is graduating this year. My issue is that her mother never wants to pay for anything. Right now she is not employed but she got her income tax just this month. Well she is out spending her money like she has no one to care for.

My husband and I have been having minor issues with SD 17. I always have disagreements with my husband stating SD just comes around when it is convenient for her. The issue I'm having now is that I happened to over hear my husband talking to SD on the phone last night, he told her he would be leaving her 20 dollars in the back yard gutter. I know 20 is not alot of money but the point is that he is keeping this from me. What else is he keeping from me? What is this teaching the SDS? I was very upset only because he was not going to tell me. I feel that he is teaching the kids that it is OK to keep things from me. As we were arguing he said I have always kept him from doing things for his kids and that is why he did it. i don't feel that way, I think that since we are married everything needs to be discussed. Am I making a big deal out of this?

Should my SKS be able to decide when they visit there mom? We have the my SKS 50/50 with mom. The thing that upsets me is that the kids never stick to the court orders. They pretty much decide when to go to there mom;s or when to come back to our house.

Why is it that Me as the SM is treated like s!@# when all I do for them is for there own good? Well my issue today is that my SKS act like they want to have nothng to do with my husand and I. My SD was caught stealing at the mall and skipping school.

My mother inlaw seems to favor the step-kids. My husband and I have 2 kids and his 2 kids from the previous marriage. It seems that my mother inlaw makes it a point to always give the SK money every week and no consideration for mine.

I'M HAVING ISSUES WITH MY STEP KIDS. I'VE BEED A STEPMOM FOR 9 YEARS AND IT SEEMS I HAVE NO CONNECTION TO THEM. IT SEEMS ALL I DO IS GIVE, GIVE AND NOTHING IN RETURN. I WAKE UP EVERY MORNING TO COOK BREAKFAST, I DO LAUNDRY, I ALWAYS MAKE THEM BIRTHDAY PARTY'S, MAKE SURE CHRISTMAS AND OTHER HOLIDAYS ARE PERFECT.