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My Dh is in the Dog House!

Ss had a parade to march in today with the band. We went and of course so did Bm. Well, we didn't see her at all before or during the parade so I thought we were in the clear!

Wrong!! After the parade, she of course had to try and hunt down ss before we could leave. Dh and ss walked over by Bm and I kept walking down the side walk. I figured ss could say whatever hi/bye to his mom and then we would keep moving along. Oh no, of course Bm had to try and hit Dh up to see if I could babysit ss this coming up Thur. So Dh starts yelling at me. I'm thinking, why do they want me to go over there, I have nothing to say to Bm. So I didn't move. So Dh keeps yelling for me to come there! Grrrr!! So I went over to where they were standing and Bm says "don't bark at her" meaning me!! That made be feel like crap but I'm sure it made her day.

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How Do We Get Ss to Speak His Mind?

He will be 13 in a month and he still can't speak him mind to his mom. He tries a little but she shoots him down and he drops it. I'm sure Bm loves this but it's not at all normal for his age!!

She is beating down his spirit! I know it's not abuse or neglect but it's still not right.

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No Truer Words Were Spoken

This weekend while ss was at Bm's house, ss said that his mom made him carry around her atm card in his pocket because she didn't have pockets. Ummm.....all weekend she didn't have pockets? Odd. When ss questioned why she didn't just bring her purse in to the stores, Bm told ss that she isn't like most women. She likes to leave her purse in the car. Finally, the truth!! Like we didn't already know she isn't like most women!!

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How Wacky is This?

And what kind of a weird position does it put ss in? Let me start from last Wed. night when Bm called and told Dh that her live in ex would be picking ss up on Thur. at 9am. This is the day and regular time for Bm to get ss. However, Bm wanted to know if her live in ex could drop ss off here that same day for a couple of hours at lunch time because Bm's live in ex had an appointment. I'm thinking dentist or something, right?

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Mums' parenting style in infancy predicts kids' behaviour in later childhood

Mums' parenting style in infancy predicts kids' behaviour in later childhood - Washington, June 24: A new study by researchers from the University of Chicago, US, has shown that the way mothers interact with their babies in the first year of life is strongly linked to how children behave ...

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Orthodontist Appt.

Well, I decided to go with Dh and ss to the orthodontist appointment. We got there about 15 min. early and had a few papers to sign. Ss and another boy got called back at the same time. The other mother got up to go back too and the ortho. assistant told that mother that they just wanted the kids. Bm was late so she didn't see ss before he went back.

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Bm Switched Ss's Dr.

and didn't tell Dh. Dh has custody of ss. I've posted here before that ss has a cast on his arm. He was supposed to get it off last week but the medical person he's been seeing was off that week. So this week ss is at Bm's for her vacation and Dh said that Bm could just take him to get his cast removed.

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So Rude

So I had ss yesterday on Bm's day. I was supposed to pick him up this morning at 9am for Dh's day. Ha!!

I get two min. away from Bm's house and my cell phone rings. It's Dh. He told me that Bm just called him and said that ss isn't ready and won't be for awhile. Bm waited until 8:55am to call and tell Dh that ss had diarrhea when he woke up this morning. Um, ok, then why didn't she call right then?!

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Stupidity and Why I Have to Deal With It!

I knew how this was going to play out but I didn't get asked my opinion before the plan was made. Why doesn't that surprise me.

First example of stupidity: Mon. night Bm calls here late and wants to know if her live-in ex can drop ss off at 8am Fri. morning. She has a dr. appointment and live-in ex has to drop off his 4 yr old at the babysitter and get to work, supposedly it would be too early to drop ss off at either the bus stop or school. Second exapmle of stupidity: Dh agrees. No questions asked. I will give Dh credit for saying that he would go into work late to take ss to school but I said no.

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Just Wondering What Others Think

Yesterday ss got his yearbook at school. Ss of course was one of the only kids if not the only one that had to get two yearbooks because Bm had to have one too. I feel bad for ss always having to be different from all of the other kids. I know that there are a lot of kids who come from divorced homes but no one else had two yearbooks.

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Dh is Still Allowing Us to be a Crutch!

Bm will just keep using us if I can't get Dh to put a stop to it. If she can't handle ss or figure out what to do with him on her time, that's her problem.

Bm called last night and asked Dh if ss could be dropped off here Fri. morning at 8am. She has a dr. appt. and her live-in ex has to be at work early and has to leave at 8am and will only have time to drop off HIS child at the babysitter and make it to work on time. Ok. How is that our problem? Of course Dh said fine. I said that it's stupid! I usually leave here by 8:10am to take ss to school. Bm only lives 3 min. form us. So I don't understand why they can't figure something out without us.

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I Did Something.....

I was so fed up with ss having to keep Bm's secrets from her live-in ex that I sent a message to her ex telling him that Bm was planning on moving out of their living situation without telling him.(which she was) Can you believe it! I told Bm's ex that I was concerned with ss having to keep these adult secrets. Of course I cleared it all with Dh before I contacted Bm's ex.

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Get This.....

Ss says that his mom hates me because she doesn't like my parenting style!! Isn't that the funniest thing you've ever heard?! This coming from a person who doesn't parent her child and usually has to be told to when she does!

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Venting About Stepson and Bm

It's our 7th wedding anniversary today and ss is making is unpleasant. It started on Fri. and has continued on into today! Of course ss was at Bm's this weekend so that made it even worse because we had to go through Bm to solve the problem.

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Not Consulted.....Grrrr

I've written before that Thur. night is usually the one week night that ss goes to his mom's. Well, he wasn't getting his homework done at her house. She said she couldn't help him with any of the algebra and her environment made it hard for him to concentrate.

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