It used to be easier switching sleeping schedules when I was younger. Not anymore, so I've been trying to stay up late in preperation for my new 3rd shift job that starts August 1. I'm getting better with NO help from DH and the SDemons.

BM asked of BF, "Please make sure SS goes to bed. He's been sneaking up in the middle of the night to get on my laptop and watch movies on YouTube all night long." Is it just me, or does the solution to this problem seem simple?

I like to check in here every once in a while, although for a while there, it was all the time ... funny how things work out like that.
DH and I are still generally apart but he goes back to the states next month. I can't wait because the children will be back in our "control". Not that they are little variables in an experiment or anything ....

Well like I stated in an earlier blog Bm is trying to tke the boys to maryland. Well our attorney advised us to get married which isnt a big deal weve been engaged for almost a yr and together for 2 yrs so we went ahead and set a date,and then later that night found out we were pregnant, were thrilled but this is my 1st pregnancy and my first and hopfully only wedding:) so I do not want to be pregnant at it and or planning it at the same time.

Hi everyone,

My mom sent me this link for me to give my dh. I have printed out my copy and am attaching the link here for you all to read and print out as well. Its very good.. and touches on a lot of what we tend to complain about here!! Well.. as far as the skids and the guilty dad syndrom go.. nothing here about the BM needing to be on meds!! lol

its been 5 plus weeks now, we have had Sd8. MY soon to be SIL has been watching her during the day , with her son (also so when i get home from work..BF and I have her kid and his. This has been everyday and every nite. She gets a break just about every nite and we dont. But Im dealing with it and we have 1 week to go. Im so fried..cant wait to have a few days kid free...I have made it this far without totally pissing off any one, but im close to a total freak out! Sd mom gets out of rehab next monday! Hurray..please take your kid ..even if its only a day or two! Just need a couple of days to rest and recharge.

I never thought the day would come, esp not so soon, but it is here, thank goodness and I am finally not the evil step mom in DH's eyes. He never called me evil, but has implied in the past that my feelings and intentions were less then pure

I went to the store a minute ago and ran into one of the Elementary school teachers. She told me drama camp was going on at the park this week, here in town. Small town and everyone, no matter if they know us or not, knows we are broke. She invited the Skids to go to camp this week for FREE! Yeah!

well FSS has moved in and signed the contract that I wrote up.
and it has been a very nice transition.
he has followed the rules and although he still does not have a job he is helping around the house.

Well last week we had all hell break loose with SD11, this week we had our demon child forget all about how she behaved. For once DH did not forget and she was served a consequence. I was totally shocked! First he had a long talk with her (asked me to be present for that). She told him he had a temper, then I think she realized she did too. He explained the difference was he controlled his. He told her she would have a consequence, then I suggested she help come up with a consequence since she feels no control. She chose 7 days without playing with her friends. Then when we went to the pool, DH made her sit out for 20 minutes as well.

anyone heard from her??? i havent and am kinda worried...

And what kind of a weird position does it put ss in? Let me start from last Wed. night when Bm called and told Dh that her live in ex would be picking ss up on Thur. at 9am. This is the day and regular time for Bm to get ss. However, Bm wanted to know if her live in ex could drop ss off here that same day for a couple of hours at lunch time because Bm's live in ex had an appointment. I'm thinking dentist or something, right?

I see people here with situations alot worse that what we have going on but I still am so frustrated... The 15 year old problem step-son did apologize after the big blow up a few weeks ago but we just had him for the weekend for the first time since. It didn't start well because there was some mis-communication with my boyfriend (an honest mistake on both of our parts) and I didn't realize he was going to be with us. I was SO looking forward to a nice long weekend and then found out at 6:00 thursday night that he was coming. I really, really just don't want to be around him. I'm mad at him all the time because of the crap his mom lets him get away with and I can't seem to separate that from his day to day behavior... which is no prize anyway, he's arrogant, lazy and disrespectful. His dad is pretty much just as frustrated with the behavior and does address it with him but he has the "he's still my son" thing so seems to tolerate it a little better than I do most of the time. So then I found myself mad at my boyfriend all weekend basically just for being nice to his son. Every little thing annoyed me, the boyfriend is typically a little on the "I'm always right" side and I found myself horribly bothered every time he made any comment or disagreement in front of the kid... and the conversations were no different than any other day when I find it occasionally annoying - and I don’t seem to have this reaction around the other step-son.

After I did some therapeutic venting (see Sunday's post), I had calmed down enough to have a sit down with DH. I apologized for being so upset earlier and he said it was OK, but he didn't want me to take it out on him when I was mad at MIL. I said I was mad at him too b/c he had asked me to help SD8 pack and I had, and by not being up front w MIL I felt he wasn't supporting me. He said he agreed with me and didn't like it either when MIL butted in and that "someone" needed to talk to his mom about her behavior and "yes, honey, you're right honey." He also told me that she was coming down by herself. I told him he needed to talk to her and he said he would.

This weekend while ss was at Bm's house, ss said that his mom made him carry around her atm card in his pocket because she didn't have pockets. Ummm.....all weekend she didn't have pockets? Odd. When ss questioned why she didn't just bring her purse in to the stores, Bm told ss that she isn't like most women. She likes to leave her purse in the car. Finally, the truth!! Like we didn't already know she isn't like most women!!

I just feel like blabbing today. So I think I just might.

(I posted on MySpace as well...so for my friends on MySpace - sorry for the repeat.)

The custody hearing for my BS12 is on Friday. I have shoes I have a more extensive relationship with than this father and son.

My husbands exwifes grandfather just passed away after a long illness and the wake is tomorrow night with the funeral the next day.The exwife has made our life miserable for yrs(read my other posts). She is this nasty,controlling,in-your face person that uses their young son as bait to get what she wants.

OK, so this past Saturday was my first run in with my BF's ex in a social situation. IT WAS VERY AWKWARD and unnecessary if you ask me. My bf had a bday party for his son (who turned 5). He had it as his brother's house and invited only his cousins and their kids and I invited 2 of my friends.

BM calls on saturday the 4th, asking to see ss2 and ss3. I already had plans to take them with me to my parents for the fourth of july thing going on down at my hometown on saturday the 5th. Well she calls DH at work and asks, he says thats fine.

Hola everyone,

Okay, life has been crazy, and I won't go into it for too much drama. But, a friend of mine recommended that I sign up for this email from "the Universe". She's a super chill, very cool, incredible woman so I thought, okay, for her, I will. I did. It's www.UT.com I started getting daily emails and they are great. Inspirational, motivating, and astoudingly "right on". I don't know how they hit the mark. So, I would like you all to do the same. It's not a gimmick, just cool. I love it. It has made me reflect, washed away some fears, given me hope and offerered me a sense of a brighter future. For those of you who are interested, go for it. Let me know if you like it.