i have a question for you guys. recently my DH and i did our wills. our biodaughter (1) is with us and his son (12) lives with his mother and his stepdad. when we did our wills, my DH was adamant that we split everything half and half between SS12 and biodaughter 1. i asked why and his answer was 'it wouldn't be fair.' and i replied, 'but if we were to both die at the same time, SS12 has his mother and stepdad to support him and take care of him. his needs will be looked after. our daughter will have NO parents left and will need all the help she can get! can we not split it 60/40?' this caused a big fight and i gave in.

We got pizza, watched Charlie Wilson's War, and caught fireworks on TV. We are getting old!

Well, the truth is a two year old is not too keen on things that light up the sky and go BOOOOOOOM! DH set off some nice fireworks Thur night while BSs were still here, but Anna HATED it and screamed and cried, "I don like it!!!! Its Too LOOOOOUUUUD!" She also hated DH out there in the dark with a flashlight, setting them off and running up to the deck to watch them. You could only see the flashlight jumping around as he ran and Anna was scared for him.

Well the blow up finally happened a couple of days ago. SD19 started with the attitude again and I lost it. I told her she was not to talk to me that way anymore. I didn't let my 9yr old bioson talk to me that way or anyone else and she wasn't going to do it anymore either. Then she started with the you guys don't appriciate me, so I pointed out that we did a heck of a lot more for her that she totally takes for granted so she has no reason to complain about appriciating someone. Girl had absolutely nothing to say...first time for everything I guess. Well she sent a text to DH telling him that I was a nightmare and she wasn't staying there anymore. When he got home she told him she didn't want to be a part of his family anymore and that it seemed like he turned into whatever female he was with at the time. When he was with her biomom he was mean like her and now he's mean like me. Hmmmmm can we see a common problem here? I think she will never realize that the common denominator in all this conflict is her! Anyway, she's gone! She moved out (well at least for now)and went to live where she was moving to a month early. THANK the LORD!! DH actually backed me up on this one. I think after the father's day fiasco he was relieved to see her go. I know he didn't want her to but at the same time it's a big destresser on both our parts. It's only been 3 days and already a big difference. My bioson told me Thursday he doesn't want her to move back because she is too mean. Works for me. Of course she tried 2 or 3 times to lay the guilt trip on DH. Made him a CD and titled it "Songs for a hero", included a picture of the 2 of them when she was about 7 and wrote on the back of it "always Daddy's little girl", told him, we used to get along fine when it was just the 2 of us (again forgetting about the fathers day fiasco, and the time last summer she moved out because he was too mean, she had a party at the cottage and did a lot of damage but he was mean when he yelled at her and made her pay for it.)

Hi everyone.....enjoying my time with my kids....they are wonderful! Picture this......waiting at the airport for them to walk off the plane, and I feel so anxious, and excited. It was a year ago when I last got to hug them, kiss them and just "be" with them.