id just like to say im feeling much better now and to take back all stupid comments i said about nto leaving cos the pain is to much well im much happier now and see the pain was not only nessecary fo

FH and i have been trying to figure out exactly what we want to do for our wedding for awhile now. we really wanted to go get married on teh beach at a resort in the caribbean, but lack of funds wont allow for that so we thought we could get married at a winery here and then stay at this beautiful B&B that we stayed at twice before, the first time being the very first time i came to visit him here in STL!

I found this while looking at youtube. It's heartbreaking. She needs our website!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ll9RgtRmiQ0

Hello everyone Im new to this site, and since I found it its been a blessing. Let me start off telling you abit about myself Im 28 years old engaged to a wonderful man whom is still married. No I didnt come between he and his ex, tho I thought when we started dating he was almost done with his divorce.

I know I'm posting alot today, sorry. BM just called "me!" She wanted to know if it was ok to highlight SD12's hair (BM is a REALLY bad hairdresser). WTF? She's NEVER asked our permission for anything before. She says it's b/c "SD12 lives with you now" not "because the "girls" live with you now". I wonder if she talked SD11 to moving back in with her.

Reading about Crayon's dilemma brought up some painful memories of my early days as a stepmom. This may seem counterintuitive, and it may not work for everyone, but here is the NUMBER ONE thing that has helped my situation more than any other thing.

DH FINALLY gets it.

He came home from SD11's softball game last night and asked me 'Do you ever have those days with your ex that you just don't want to even talk to them?'

ME: "Every day is like that for me..."

How long does it usually take for them to get it? Get the fact that they are divorced for a REASON!

A short vent: DH has a training on Sunday so he just told me I get to spend the day with SD8. I suggested that it would be nice if he at least asked me in case I had plans or something, to which he replied that he was very concerned that I would expect him to ask me to look after my own child. I love it when he tosses out that little gem - I wonder how often he's said that to BM since SD is actually hers and she doesn't do a damn thing.

The skids are coming tomorrow evening and aren't going back to BM's until next Friday. I just KNOW this is going to be a stressful week! I'm already stressing, my stomach is doing flips and it's not even Friday yet. Their last week here was horrible!! I have NO control over anything they do, but yet I'm the one they stay with ALL day! BF says that if Monday doesn't go smoothly, then Monday night he'll take SS back to his BM's. I know this isn't going to fly, I know Monday won't be smooth. I've dealt with it long enough to know better by now. I'm just dreading the fact that I will once again feel like I don't belong here.. which is how they usually make me feel, either by words or actions. I went so far as to try and give them some structure last time. We made a chore list, together and even added in "rewards" based on a point system. Do your chores & behave like you should and you get such n such points.. yada yada. Needless to say, that blew up in my face after a day. I'm out of things to try, and here I go again! Blah!!

I know I hardly ever blog anymore, b/c I haven't needed to since SD16 moved back in w/the nutjob. Since Saturday, there have been a few issues I am struggling with and would like some help with.
As I posted in an earlier blog, SD's GP's live around the corner from us, sheer co-incidence, trust me.. anyway, she spends a LOT of time there, b/c nutcase only wants her around at the beginning of the month when the government issues her check. That is the only reason she ever wanted those kids around anyway, for the cash.... Anyway, we haven't seen SD since she moved out in Feb, and DH has only spoken to her a few times.

So, everyone has those horrible days or situations. And everyone always says that "everything happens for a reason". And at the time, you never see it. Sometimes it takes weeks, sometimes months, and maybe even years to see that.

Let’s see what you have to say about this.

EH and I have been divorced for over 7 years. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody of our 2 boys. We have a very cordial, understanding relationship. For this, I realize, I am very blessed. Since we have been divorced he has dated one woman for 5 years who moved in and out of his house no less than 4 times in 5 years. I watched my children go through a lot of turmoil during their relationship but I never said anything negative about it. The last time she moved out, I thought the relationship was over until they surprised everyone by getting married 2 months later. When I asked my children how they felt about the nuptials the week before the wedding my oldest (10) said he thought his dad was “crazy for doing this” and that they both thought there was an outside chance it wouldn’t happen (since she had moved out so many times, they didn’t have any faith in her follow through). The marriage lasted 11 months, the last half of which stepmom spent most of her time in “the depression room” which my boys told my mother that they named the extra bedroom she slept in when she didn’t want to sleep with their dad. Meanwhile, since she brought another 3 children to the marriage that left one of my children sleeping on the floor of their house. Nevertheless, I didn’t make any comments to my children or their father in any form how I felt about what was going on.

So SD got picked up at the airport today at noon. My FH has been going with her nonstop since she got here. There was a restaurant I wanted to go to this weekend - well guess what he took SD there for lunch today - and it is expensive.

Here's life: Part 1

I thought I hit gold, a great husband, two step kids and a seeemingly cool ex-wife.

NOT:

Part 2

Fights, legal battles and parental alienation

Part 3

Too much stress, building a new house, husband loses his job, multiple miscarriages inexperienced contractor, fails to finish project and tries to sue us because he can't pay his own bills.

I've been searching for how to deal with ex wives for my husband and all the info seems to be about single moms. Is there no info for men that have custody of their kids? Not even on the attorney generals website.

Hello,

I am posting because, my boyfriend had our step-daughter from Wednesday to Thursday as per the court order. On Wednesday we were watching this show titled "Baby Borrowers". I don't know if anyone has seen it on Channel 4 in New York. I really like the show

For a little back story fiances EX and him were together for around 7 years then he found out she was cheating, with a trucker and after her refusal to work things out or attempt counseling they broke up.