hello all im back do not intend to stay long im still not feeling to good hope evry one is ok and hanging in i see i have a lot of reading up to do

If you read my last posts you know the horror.Well i took some of your advice i had my ringer on my phone shut off yesterday so i turn it back on in the afternoon i was expecting a call from my parent

I am a SAHM with 3kids. I have been a sm for 10 years. My skids no longer live at home as they have moved on with their lives. I found this site a few weeks ago and sure wish I had known about it when I did have skids living at home!

Truly--I am in shock.

SD18 appeared at our home yesterday to apologize for breaking into our room and stealing from us back in February. Back then, we immediately kicked her out--our home contract made it clear that being kicked out was the consequence for stealing. We knew that stealing meant the SD18 was using drugs again (coke and pot).

So....

Here's a recap and an update.

SD left El Paso TX at 6:30 am Sat.
Was to land in Atlanta at 12ish and take off at 12:30is to Louisville, KY where ILs are.
Due to weather, plane was diverted to Montgomery AL, where she sat for a couple hours or more waiting to head on to L-ville.

my FH just had the final wrap up to the custody bs thats been going on w SD. he had some issues w the parenting plan thats in place, but naturally the judge didnt care. anyway, what struck me is odd was the CS calculation. they have daycare included as part of the calculation, added on top of the normal monthly payment, which is fine for now but she wont be in daycare for much longer. so FH brought that up and said why is daycare included until the age of 18 when she wont be going that whole time? the GAL said that bc BM has to work and cant be home w her, she will need a babysitter. FH said but until 18??? the response? thats just how they do it. does this seem rite to y'all? BM doesnt even work M-F 9-5...she only works one day shift and 2 wkend shifts a wk. why is he responsible for her babysitter? daycare is one thing, but when she goes to work and her roommate stays home w SD, it doesnt seem fair that FH has to pay. does it??

well I have to report that the honeymoon phase of FSS moving in has ended.
it was a nice 10 days, however brief they were
a little background, FSS (who just moved in with me and BF)has a girlfriend who is very needy and very selfish very controlling well she went on vacation with her mom- guess for how long...

Hello everyone, this is my first post, but I've been reading all of your posts for a few weeks now. I can relate to so many of them. Ok, so here's one of my many issues..
I am a mother of one daughter (almost 3), My boyfriend has two teens (13-14). We have been living together for almost 2 years. Both are recently divorced. I have been through hell and high water with this man trying my best to deal with the insane witch of an ex. It's been really hard, and I used to find myself wanting to give up. We are great together, tons in common, all that good stuff. Did I mention that I moved over 3000 miles across the country just to be with him?! My question is this, I have proved myself and my level of commitment time and time again, I give our relationship 110% daily, and I truly am madly in love with this man.. so how long should I be willing to wait before I get a proposal?? We have talked about getting married, and he expresses that he loves the idea, yet, no ring.. and I sometimes get the comment, "I just want it to be perfect."

I know that as I step parent I tried really really hard to keep the peace. After a few initial bumps, things went smoothly. I was just wondering how many here are on amicable terms with the spouses ex, or even not necessarily amicable terms....even just peaceful.

Well BM decided she was leaving the program she was in and took all the kids with her to some guys trailer (she meet him in rehab). Well that of course means that she doesn't get SS for the summer. It was only as long as she was in the program that she got SS for the summer.

So I don't understand why when a mother gives up her children to live with thier father because she couldn't deal with them anymore; does she think after a few years, when they are well mannered and behaved, she can have them back? Does it work that way?? She no only brings up 50/50 all the time but she buys their love and make them feel guilty.

I really think the skids need to go to counseling and have talked to BF about it. He agrees but when he brought it up to BM she said absolutely not. You see, he is not supposed to have any say in the children's lives, or make any type of medical or personal decisions because BM needs to have all the control. She was taking them to a counselor when they first separated and was trying to say that the kids were afraid of BF and all this other crap. She was present during the counseling sessions too so of course the kids couldn't say what they really wanted to because she was there. She all of the sudden stopped taking them after a few sessions probably because she realized her plan wasn't going to work. It is very evident that she is brainwashing them (attempting to), trying to poison their minds against us, and even asking them to lie to BF about certain things.

Ok I have a discipline issue with my future step son who is 7 1/2. I tell him not to do something...he does again right after.

I have noticed time outs are pointless. He either gets down from time out and does the same exact thing right afterwards, or he screams the entire time and stretches his 7 minute time out into a half an hour event (I wont count his time until he stops screaming and stands still) Or he falls asleep immediately and then wakes up an hour and a half later making the time out useless.

Yeah so I thought I just had nothing left foe BM- didn't care enough to hate her- I was soo wrong!@!

Today I took SD to psych. app. and discussed some of my concerns also- well it's funny cause all of my concerns were validated

well BM got out of rehab a week ago.........and she is allready asking for favors and not being a reliable parent. Meaning she doesnt want to parent and is a selfish witch, I would love to ellibrate but it just so pointless. Nothing changes and why did i think it would.