i seem to be ok at the min its being inside the house that gets me i sit by the window like a lost soul waiting for my sailor to return home.

my heart condition has flared up due to the stress so my doc has me over dosing on all my pills as she had no choice it was that bad. its still bad now but better. not sure what day he is comeing round to talk on but i cant wait its either over or its not. as im unsure of what we both want at the min and this is driving me insane.

Well my dad wanted to take me out for dinner on my bday. I suggested that we go to a ball game with bf and skids. That way they could run around and have fun while we watched the game! What a stupid idea that was. First SS13 went with his grampa camping so he did not go . SO it was just bf , sd8, me and my dad. Well she whined for this and that the ENTIRE time. IT was unreal!! At one point i leaned over to bf and whispered to him , what ever the F it is she wants give it too her before i scream!! And the damn game went on forever!!! We got in the car about 10:30 pm ( got there at 5!) BF had words with SD and told her that we would never take her out to a ball game again if she acted like that. She starts to cry and says she wants to see her mom. Well she hasnt seen her mom in 2 1/2 weeks, and hasnt said a word. So things dont go right for her and she wants to see mom. Swell.

When I got home, I blew a gasket. He just stood there and took my ranting like a trooper. Then, when I went to my room, brought me something to drink, and my cell when it rang. I still refused to look at him or speak to him.

About 9pm on Friday night, my neighbor across the street's son19 had a party in front of the house on the sidewalk and street. This party involved alcohol. They were obnoxious and loud and urinating all over the place (mind you, we live in a NICE area.. not the slums, and not the inner city!) As I have respect for my neighbors (not the 19 yr old), I let it go. I didnt call the cops. I did my best to ignore all this. We eventually went to bed.

Hello Everyone,

I am posting because, I have a question. My boyfriend states that the last time he was in court the referee had implemented in the temporary custody/visitation order he receive phone calls from his daughter weekdays between 7-7:30pm.

Hey everyone,

Haven't posted about this yet, but I'm super stressed and ready to cry.

As some of you may remember, I had a kidney stone the end of March. The next week was DH's last at his then employer. Due to the stone my Dr wanted to run some tests that I knew would be over 500 dollars. But I was concerned as to when our coverage ended. So I told DH to ask his HR rep. His last working day was Tue, April 1. He was owed 3 vacation days, so he asked HR if those would count for our benefit coverage through April 4, the day I was to have the testing done. The HR rep called corporate, who gave their blessing that we would be covered through his remaining vacation days.

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Today husband and lawyer meet with BM and her lawyer to hash out custody and CS arrangements for SD15. I am so mad we have to pay CS, after four years with primary custody of SD with NO CS. The CS was a condition of BM taking SD, unfortunately, and she will get it. Now we have to determine how much.

I swear if it is not one thing it is another & she will badger until she gets what she wants!!!

Once a year her company sends her to Florida ( normally during the school year) This time it is the end of June. She had two differnt dates she emailed DH about & didn't tell us for sure what had been decided... the kids told me. She had mentionedf once sending them to her parents farm, but then DH looses his visitation & we are stuck paying for a week of ycare that they are not at, this is not cheap people. So just last week DH asks her about the dates & she leaves next Monday we have the kids that weekend & rather than us keep them Sunday night she wasnts them back & she will taken them to ycare & then fly out, she is back Thursday 7 asked DH to give up his time from 3:30 to 5:30 because she will miss them & wants to head to her parentst farm ( probably her BF's for a day or so first) and he said fine.

Out of his 3 daughters, DH has always favored his middle. It's clearly obvious, even to the other two, who refer to her as the "Golden Child" who can do no wrong in her father's eyes.

This is the child, age 16, whom I have blogged most about on this site. I have no relationship with her. She is manipulative, she lies with no remorse, and is almost gleeful when caught. She treats her other two sisters like they are her personal slaves. She is becoming a little version of her BM, which is not a pretty picture by any means! And she treats her father like complete garbage. And the more she does, the more he wants to do for her. It puzzling, bizzare, and sometimes just sick.

This is my first blog entry... this site is supposed to be about venting, right? Well here I go!!
The oldest step-son just turned 15 and basically flunked his entire freshman year of high school, is disrespectful to everyone and wouldn't dream of lifting a finger to help anyone. There are no rules at his mother's house and he does whatever he wants. There are no consequences for bad behavior such as breaking his bedroom door in the middle of an argument with his mother or the flunking school issue. So, what do you think the appropriate next step would be to get a kid like this in line? My idea would certainly NOT be to go buy him a car but that's exactly what she did on Saturday. She thinks it will motivate him to pass all of the summer school classes he has to take to catch up and to do better next school year. I almost laughed in her face last night when I picked up the younger son and she was surprised that the older son hadn't spend the day doing homework and helping around the house. This kid has never been required to meet a single responsibility yet and has gotten everything he wants, why oh why on earth did she think he would step up now??? And on top of it she expected his dad to participate despite the fact we've made it ENTIRELY clear we think this is a really, really bad idea. So his dad had to decide between being part of a bad idea or staying out if it, missing his son's first car purchase and putting more strain on an already strained relationship... see, we have rules and expectations and the kid obviously doesn't like that much so things are a little tense at our house when he's there. UUGGHH!!! He decided to go along to look at the car with him which the ex then purchased. I'm not at all happy we gave even implied approval but we did made it clear there would be no driving lessons at our house (not sure what laws are in other states but here you have only a learners permit at 15, no license until 16) until the grades come up and the attitude improves.

Anyone in Wisconsin that can maybe answer a few questions for me? let me know please...thx

It just kills me sometimes. Today is my son's 10th birthday. He lives in Austin Tx. w/ his dad. Both of my kids do. I woke up today, and even though I sent him a card in the mail, I wanted to send one online for him today.

I am wondering if anyone has ever had any kind of medical information denied to father of children NCP?

My DH called to talk to the psychiatrist's office today because SD had an appointment and he doesn't want a diagnosis or medication prescribed to SD without his consent. The receptionist at the office told him that the BM would have to sign a release and consent form first or they couldn't tell him anything. WHAT!!! DH has a court document that states differently!! I know...I wrote it myself!!! I couldn't believe that! He told the lady that he had joint custody and that they couldn't ever deny him anything when it came to his daughter and she just stated that she would leave a message for the doctor. Well, the appointment was over an hour ago and still no phone call. See, we live 700 miles away so DH wanted BM to call him via cell phone so that he could tell the doctor what he has observed...especially since BM has only had SD back for less than 48 hours and we had her off meds here with us for the past month. How can BM say to how she has been acting when she was here??? That is DH's point. He emailed BM last night and everything about wanting to be on the phone and even faxed that into the doctor's office but still.....no call. Who do these people think they are??? How is he supposed to co parent when she refuses and then professionals allow that behavior? Wouldn't you think that a psychiatrist would see right through that and would at the same time WANT to have the complete picture?

We finally got the internet back on today! Thank god!! DH found a local job so he's home everynight and gets to deal with SD12.

As you might remember from my last blog SD12 had a temper tantrum and I had to call the police b/c she was so out of control. Well life has been a rollercoster since then. Whenever DH not around she talks to me like Im a piece of crap. But when DH around it's all "yes mam" "no mam". It makes me want to slap her. She still on restriction after throwing another fit 2 weeks ago and getting caught in multiple lies. She wants to go see BM who is out of state and I don't think she should go until after the court date. That way her mother can't coach her in what to say, or help her twist the story to make it look like my fault.

SS6 and SS11 both had activities at the same time Thursday. It was our night with SSons so I offered to take SS6 to his activity. FH had to go to SS11’s activity since he had to sign forms for summer camp.

Married 2 years now, with a 7 yr old SS. H told me last night that his ex wants to have lunch this week to rework some custody agreements, in the event that one parent dies. She is undergoing surgery soon and she realized their paperwork has not been changed since they were married 9 years ago. This conversation was supposed to be solely about custody, not about assets (which will be determined when H and I make our will.) I felt I should be present because a scenario where the ex dies and leaves sole custody to my H, would greatly involve me as I would also be a caretaker and would have a fulltime SS in my house. The ex requested I not be there. My H said he hates to agree with her, but that he didn't think this was that big of a deal... it was just paperwork and I wasn't really a part of it.

I didn't want to hijack the post Frustrated started, so I'm starting a fresh one here.

I hate my body. I know I know. It's ridiculous. It is for the most part, healthy. It gets me places and my husband loves it no matter what. I just don't like the "no matter what" clause. I used to be a hot mama. Now I am just a mama.

As you all know ss3 is now potty trained has been for a while but we are working on ss2, and its taking a bit longer, one because he's a little younger and since BM doesnt work with him it sets him back (and yes even though she doesnt get them for long it still has an affect)

Just wanted to say hi before I just jumped in here.